harvey said:
As superficial as it may seem, the weather is alway an acceptable topic. Is it unusual? is it ruining plans? Is it just right for the plans? Do you hope it stays this way for the weekend because ....?
Then listen to what she says for something to follow up on. She says something like "I agree, we were hoping to camp at Long River for canoeing." Now you can ask her anything and everything about camping or canoeing.
And as she answers look for other things you can comment on or ask about.
I'd be labeled as boring if I took that approach, besides I played out the scenario in my head and this is what I saw...
Me: "So what do you think the weather is gonna be like this weekend?"
Girl: "well, yada yada yada."
Me: "Yea I was thinking of doing this or that but not if it's gonna be this cold."
Girl: "hahaha, bla bla bla, blab blab?"
Me: "Whenever I can, how bout you?"
*so we get to know eachother*
Me: btw I have no friends.(eventually it will come up)
Girl: ...
I really have nothing in common with "common folk" as well. What? does she want to come over and play video games or watch sports? Is she gonna watch me read books? I guess I have to find someone as messed up as me. Thanks for your help though