very_shy
Well-known member
Hi all. It is my first post to the forum - I have put it here although it deals also with some shyness and SA matters.
I am 24 years old guy, currently finishing study at the university. I must say my grades are successful. However, when talking about my other, "non-scholar" type of life, it seems to be dead or non-existing.
Most of my time I spend at home, hanging with my parents, computer, books... It seems I have almost nothing with common with my "friends" anymore. When we were younger, we were playing football,, social games, you know, etc. Now we are older and it seems like a norm or dogma that these "home" activities were replaced my others - e.g. going out at night etc... Well I guess my shyness and unwilingness to transform to that "style"cost me almost 1 friend, finding its own company... The thing is I do not even bother about it...
Not to mention the fact that I have never had a girlfriend, not even close... I started then thinking about me. Although all people say I am nice person, eager to help other colleagues (especially at school, of course, when they "need" me), I have been more and more focusing on my negative sides, like shyness, unwilingness to go out (when my classes ended I rushed home to catch my bus-yes I don't even have a driving license), even for a drink (I become nervous because of social hobia,I think) etc. Also I have a minor "bug", while my left eye is started to be "cross-eyed"ie going little to the left, so now I am wearing Fresnel prismas in order to correct it (however the success is not guaranteed) , so now I have been worrying even about this, thinking that that last thing would, like I say, "seal my fate" I go that far I consider this the end of our family tree etc. For example, when I see some beautiful girl, I am ashamed of myself, put my head down just not to look her, while falling in depression of my negative characteristics, thus starting criticising myself again and again.
So far, I can live with that, however some day I would like to see if I am capable of reaching some wind of change...
So, any opinions, thoughts? Am I too much dealing with self-criticism? Too much pesimism? Or am I being just honest? How would you deal with it?
Best wishes to all
I am 24 years old guy, currently finishing study at the university. I must say my grades are successful. However, when talking about my other, "non-scholar" type of life, it seems to be dead or non-existing.
Most of my time I spend at home, hanging with my parents, computer, books... It seems I have almost nothing with common with my "friends" anymore. When we were younger, we were playing football,, social games, you know, etc. Now we are older and it seems like a norm or dogma that these "home" activities were replaced my others - e.g. going out at night etc... Well I guess my shyness and unwilingness to transform to that "style"cost me almost 1 friend, finding its own company... The thing is I do not even bother about it...
Not to mention the fact that I have never had a girlfriend, not even close... I started then thinking about me. Although all people say I am nice person, eager to help other colleagues (especially at school, of course, when they "need" me), I have been more and more focusing on my negative sides, like shyness, unwilingness to go out (when my classes ended I rushed home to catch my bus-yes I don't even have a driving license), even for a drink (I become nervous because of social hobia,I think) etc. Also I have a minor "bug", while my left eye is started to be "cross-eyed"ie going little to the left, so now I am wearing Fresnel prismas in order to correct it (however the success is not guaranteed) , so now I have been worrying even about this, thinking that that last thing would, like I say, "seal my fate" I go that far I consider this the end of our family tree etc. For example, when I see some beautiful girl, I am ashamed of myself, put my head down just not to look her, while falling in depression of my negative characteristics, thus starting criticising myself again and again.
So far, I can live with that, however some day I would like to see if I am capable of reaching some wind of change...
So, any opinions, thoughts? Am I too much dealing with self-criticism? Too much pesimism? Or am I being just honest? How would you deal with it?
Best wishes to all