LazyHermitCrab
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Okay so this is coming from someone who probably has avpd myself, but i'm just trying to write ideas for myself and share them in order to enjoy life more.
1. Expect to possibly "mess up" but don't let it destroy your day or night by obsessing over it. Everyone messes up, but not everyone obsesses over it. It’s done and over, so move on and look forward to the good things you will experience in the future and make the most of your present positively.
2. Remember that you’re not alone, everyone is actually an individual themself. Anyone can join in socially including ourselves. The problem we might run into is that people are generally social creatures who want to form a group and sometimes enjoy talking about others who don’t actively participate in the group. Someone can mistake a shy person for not wanting to make friends even when they do. However other people with anxious thoughts, who do exist will understand you even people who doesn't have anxious thoughts, but has a friend who does will almost understand and/or be interested in you. Even so, try to ask people how their day was, or other random stuff so the people who don’t understand that shy people are actually not shy all the time will feel “loved” too. Don’t get mad at people who don’t understand you because some will some won’t. Even if you don’t have sa, not everyone clicks with eachother so don’t force it but be open to new friendships even though you might think the person is impossible to get along with, you could be surprised. If you want to make a real friend to hangout with, talk more personable. An example would be going into detail about something: Whoah I was scared of getting stuck in the snow last night but I bought an awesome game, so it was worth it….(so pretty much talk about your feelings other than the same answer each time which I do a lot, when someone asks how you are)
3. Initiate contact with people you want to talk to. If you say the person’s name you win lots of points….(I’m horrible with names, but it makes people smile if you remember it)
4. Treat everyone with respect but if someone isn’t to you, you don’t have to be nice. Screw them and either ignore them which is what I would do or something else. Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of ever. You can do favors for people, but only if there is trust. Ask people for help too if you need it.
5. Find your voice by practicing speaking. A way you can do this is reading out loud even if your by yourself, actually it might be easier by yourself or with a pet. Read a play if you want.
6. Get to know yourself; think about your favorite topics and write them down so you have interesting things to say.
Give yourself a pat on the back and say “I AM AWESOME” because you are
1. Expect to possibly "mess up" but don't let it destroy your day or night by obsessing over it. Everyone messes up, but not everyone obsesses over it. It’s done and over, so move on and look forward to the good things you will experience in the future and make the most of your present positively.
2. Remember that you’re not alone, everyone is actually an individual themself. Anyone can join in socially including ourselves. The problem we might run into is that people are generally social creatures who want to form a group and sometimes enjoy talking about others who don’t actively participate in the group. Someone can mistake a shy person for not wanting to make friends even when they do. However other people with anxious thoughts, who do exist will understand you even people who doesn't have anxious thoughts, but has a friend who does will almost understand and/or be interested in you. Even so, try to ask people how their day was, or other random stuff so the people who don’t understand that shy people are actually not shy all the time will feel “loved” too. Don’t get mad at people who don’t understand you because some will some won’t. Even if you don’t have sa, not everyone clicks with eachother so don’t force it but be open to new friendships even though you might think the person is impossible to get along with, you could be surprised. If you want to make a real friend to hangout with, talk more personable. An example would be going into detail about something: Whoah I was scared of getting stuck in the snow last night but I bought an awesome game, so it was worth it….(so pretty much talk about your feelings other than the same answer each time which I do a lot, when someone asks how you are)
3. Initiate contact with people you want to talk to. If you say the person’s name you win lots of points….(I’m horrible with names, but it makes people smile if you remember it)
4. Treat everyone with respect but if someone isn’t to you, you don’t have to be nice. Screw them and either ignore them which is what I would do or something else. Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of ever. You can do favors for people, but only if there is trust. Ask people for help too if you need it.
5. Find your voice by practicing speaking. A way you can do this is reading out loud even if your by yourself, actually it might be easier by yourself or with a pet. Read a play if you want.
6. Get to know yourself; think about your favorite topics and write them down so you have interesting things to say.
Give yourself a pat on the back and say “I AM AWESOME” because you are
