Drebased123
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I was moderately popular in middle school not going to lie I had a couple girlfriends here and there and had a decent amount of friends.it all started freshmen year of high school for me where my self consciousness started to get the best of me when I would often get picked on by the seniors getting roasted almost every other day for my haircut, my shoes, my image and etc. I would always be the center of attention of everybody around when people joked about me it led me to feel like I wasn’t "cool" enough to show my face around that group of people, so I left them and became friends with a kid who became my best friend. He constantly trashed popular kids, which made me feel good about hanging out with him.
Fast forward to senior year I was a little more open to people, I was on the football (starting position),had a new girlfriend who was “semi popular” and made a bunch of new friends, you would think 3 years later I would be feeling like the shit at this moment with all the new things in my life but nope I was missing one thing : I wasn’t as sociably open as I wanted to be, I’m talkative and energetic when I’m around my friends but I still didn’t have the courage to approach a stranger anywhere and say anything without feeling jitters or overthinking what I have to say. THEN ONE DAY THAT ALL CHANGED FOR ME. We had a homecoming prep rally at school which me and my best friend at the time planned 2 months in advance on asking our girlfriends to homecoming in front of the WHOLE SCHOOL ! Now you know with my social anxiety I was thinking about all type of bad things that could happen on that day 2 months prior but eventually that day came, I had to follow through with the promise to myself and my Best friend. So the moment has come where I walked out to the middle of the gym in front of 3000+ kids there was no way I can turn around now because all eyes was literally locked on me at this moment. My nerves were jumping like crazy as the principal handed me the microphone I didn’t practice anything I wanted to say or even had an idea what my voice sound like on a microphone, but once I managed to get the first couple words out the rest came natural and to be honest that became one of the most memorable days of MY LIFE! My girlfriend said yes to homecoming and the whole gym cheered for me I felt like I was a performer at a concert and everybody loved and remembered me for days to come. People I run into from old high school days still bring that story up when we met lol
So the mural of this story is The best way to overcome social anxiety is to literally put yourself out of your comfort zone, the things that give you the the most jitters DO IT! I could have easily punked out the whole situation with my negative thoughts 2 months prior but because i maned up it changed my life forever. I promise if you start with the little things first the bigger things only get smaller for you to accomplish. I hope my story help and inspire someone to step out their comfort zone
Fast forward to senior year I was a little more open to people, I was on the football (starting position),had a new girlfriend who was “semi popular” and made a bunch of new friends, you would think 3 years later I would be feeling like the shit at this moment with all the new things in my life but nope I was missing one thing : I wasn’t as sociably open as I wanted to be, I’m talkative and energetic when I’m around my friends but I still didn’t have the courage to approach a stranger anywhere and say anything without feeling jitters or overthinking what I have to say. THEN ONE DAY THAT ALL CHANGED FOR ME. We had a homecoming prep rally at school which me and my best friend at the time planned 2 months in advance on asking our girlfriends to homecoming in front of the WHOLE SCHOOL ! Now you know with my social anxiety I was thinking about all type of bad things that could happen on that day 2 months prior but eventually that day came, I had to follow through with the promise to myself and my Best friend. So the moment has come where I walked out to the middle of the gym in front of 3000+ kids there was no way I can turn around now because all eyes was literally locked on me at this moment. My nerves were jumping like crazy as the principal handed me the microphone I didn’t practice anything I wanted to say or even had an idea what my voice sound like on a microphone, but once I managed to get the first couple words out the rest came natural and to be honest that became one of the most memorable days of MY LIFE! My girlfriend said yes to homecoming and the whole gym cheered for me I felt like I was a performer at a concert and everybody loved and remembered me for days to come. People I run into from old high school days still bring that story up when we met lol
So the mural of this story is The best way to overcome social anxiety is to literally put yourself out of your comfort zone, the things that give you the the most jitters DO IT! I could have easily punked out the whole situation with my negative thoughts 2 months prior but because i maned up it changed my life forever. I promise if you start with the little things first the bigger things only get smaller for you to accomplish. I hope my story help and inspire someone to step out their comfort zone