Shyguy4
Active member
I want to share with you how I got to my breakthrough because it really worked for me but if you read my last post you know why SA still affects me. To tell you the truth I was smoking weed and I hit the highest point of my anxiety when I smoke because it makes me feel more intune with my thoughts and my thoughts are actually negative there isn't one good thought that I had about me since i've been realizing I had these thoughts about myself(ANTS thoughts.) We'll when i'm intune with my thoughts I realize I listen to them one example of my thoughts is that i'm not worth anyones time because nobody wants to talk to me...the other thoughts are ten times worse but I feel comfortable sharing this one .. so anyways I knew then that the thoughts were called a.n.t.s. thoughts (CBT) so while I was dwelling in my thoughts and feeling worse about myself I told myself after about an hour of dwelling that these thoughts weren't real and I would laugh on how outrageous the thoughts were but not all of them were, some seemed real...anybody doing CBT for social anxiety knows that they tell you and make you realize that the negative thoughts about myself aren't real even though they seem real and this helped me when I was sober and I could talk to my friends easily but once I smoked I would go into anxiety world that I couldnt compare to when i'm sober ...it was like all I thought was negative thoughts and I would try to convince myself that these thoughts weren't real but it wouldn' work because I would convince myslef I was listening to a lie that the therapist told me just to make me feel better(another ants thought). well after I told myslef and actually convinced myself that all of the thoughts were lies thats when I felt cured and the thoughts I had disappeared.(cured)
If you do what I did... I dont mean you have to smoke but follow what I did when I was having my negative thoughts I think you can be cured but another thing I have to say is once cured leave! from any social interactions because one negative or self concious comment from another person could make you go back to your ants thoughts.(It did for me)
Things you need to realize:
- question your negative "maybe he was just having a bad day and treated everybody like that"
- Every single negative thought you have about yourself is not real they were created while you were socially anxious which then seem real because of very low insecurities.
-The main reason we are socially anxious is because of these negative thoughts that were made up in our own minds ...try making yourself more secure about yourself and i'm sure you will see improvement.
- You aren't a mind reader and you dont know what other people are thinking so how can you know if they were thinking something bad about you or judging you ?
-If you can't convince yourself that the negative thoughts arent real then tell yourself "ok if these thoughts are real as they seem, then who cares I'll do better next time ...life doesn't end for me just because these things happened nobody is perfect.
-laugh at your negative thoughts (this is really helpful)
_Don't try to argue with your thoughts to try and see if they are true because they're not and your wasting your time.. just ignore them if you can and say who cares.. it already happened and im still alive and well.
- Always be positive when dealing with your thoughts.
My hopes go out to anyone who tries these things and hopefully you will have better luck than me on staying out of the negative thoughts when you become cured.
If you do what I did... I dont mean you have to smoke but follow what I did when I was having my negative thoughts I think you can be cured but another thing I have to say is once cured leave! from any social interactions because one negative or self concious comment from another person could make you go back to your ants thoughts.(It did for me)
Things you need to realize:
- question your negative "maybe he was just having a bad day and treated everybody like that"
- Every single negative thought you have about yourself is not real they were created while you were socially anxious which then seem real because of very low insecurities.
-The main reason we are socially anxious is because of these negative thoughts that were made up in our own minds ...try making yourself more secure about yourself and i'm sure you will see improvement.
- You aren't a mind reader and you dont know what other people are thinking so how can you know if they were thinking something bad about you or judging you ?
-If you can't convince yourself that the negative thoughts arent real then tell yourself "ok if these thoughts are real as they seem, then who cares I'll do better next time ...life doesn't end for me just because these things happened nobody is perfect.
-laugh at your negative thoughts (this is really helpful)
_Don't try to argue with your thoughts to try and see if they are true because they're not and your wasting your time.. just ignore them if you can and say who cares.. it already happened and im still alive and well.
- Always be positive when dealing with your thoughts.
My hopes go out to anyone who tries these things and hopefully you will have better luck than me on staying out of the negative thoughts when you become cured.
