the third wheel

[Layla]

Isn't it awful going out with people or friends in groups of 3 ?! Because of SA and my insecurities, I always end up feeling like the THIRD WHEEL and it feels terrible! Ughh. Like when you only have space on the sidewalk for two people to walk next to each other, the third person's gotta either walk in front or drag in back, and either way, you're out of the conversation and wondering what those two are laughing so hard about.
Just wanted to rant. Feeling a little yucky.
thanks for listening

 

[Indecisive]

Hi Layla,

I've felt the same way also because of my insecurities. In a group of 3 or more I often don't know the proper place to add a comment. I tend to feel out of place in groups so I tend to avoid them.

 

[PunkyMonkey]

Hey, yeah yesterday I knew how you felt. I was working my first day somewhere, and all of a sudden I was going to lunch with these two girls I didn't know.... They had known each other a little before, but not too too well. Anyway, for some reason I felt like they were the best of friends and I was just an extra person. Whenever I thought to say something I felt like I would be interrupting them or something. Walking on the sidewalk, ha, that happened, and yes I walked behind them while they went side by side, chatting. It's not too fun.

 

[SingaporeGuy]

Isn't it awful going out with people or friends in groups of 3 ?! Because of SA and my insecurities, I always end up feeling like the THIRD WHEEL and it feels terrible! Ughh. Like when you only have space on the sidewalk for two people to walk next to each other, the third person's gotta either walk in front or drag in back, and either way, you're out of the conversation and wondering what those two are laughing so hard about.
Just wanted to rant. Feeling a little yucky.
thanks for listening

yeah, its like that, if u dont voice out, u wont get noticed. happened to me many times.

 

[LemonKiss]

Isn't it awful going out with people or friends in groups of 3 ?! Because of SA and my insecurities, I always end up feeling like the THIRD WHEEL and it feels terrible! Ughh. Like when you only have space on the sidewalk for two people to walk next to each other, the third person's gotta either walk in front or drag in back, and either way, you're out of the conversation and wondering what those two are laughing so hard about.
Just wanted to rant. Feeling a little yucky.
thanks for listening

Wow. It's like you're describing me perfectly. I feel comforted knowing I'm not all alone in suffering from such a problem.

The two people I'm with always walk together in front of me and I feel left out. And in the car I sit in the back and can't figure out how to speak loud enough to be heard in the front.

 

[black_mamba]

The two people I'm with always walk together in front of me and I feel left out. And in the car I sit in the back and can't figure out how to speak loud enough to be heard in the front.

:lol: Ah, me too, always been with friends in groups of three and its only recently that I've had the confidence to socialise with just one person at a time. At least with three, if a sudden awkward silence falls upon you, you can blame the other two. :wink:

 

[sugarcake]

I so know what you mean! On the sidewalk, it seems as if I'm always on the edge about to fall off. My sister is always going up and talking to new people and of course I'm usually too uncomfortable to talk to much to the new person, so it's awkward, but then I don't have anyone else to hang with but her. It was the same way with my friend and her boyfriend, I don't why I was even there. I wish it wasn't always me, but it seems like it always is. I just do better one-on-one. It's always the same with three, the other two are just basically talking to each other and they only pay attention to me if I make a comment.

 

[Layla]

yeah, but what really bothers me is that, every now and then that I do make a comment, or a funny joke, they dont even pay attention cause theyre too busy talking to each other! which makes me wonder, do I need new friends or is there something wrong with me? I tend to blame myself, like think I'm just not interesting enough. It makes me sad. Booo.

 

[corsa]

yeah, but what really bothers me is that, every now and then that I do make a comment, or a funny joke, they dont even pay attention cause theyre too busy talking to each other! which makes me wonder, do I need new friends or is there something wrong with me? I tend to blame myself, like think I'm just not interesting enough. It makes me sad. Booo.

oh i feel like this all the time, sometimes i wonder if i'm talking loud enough for them to hear me. And then i think, i don't really care if they heard me or not because they're just a bunch of idiots. Most of the time the conversation amongst the group is of sub-standard quality anyway e.g talking about paris hilton

 

[corsa]

'that's hot'.

 

[Layla]

haha thanks for the laugh