The Shell (Short Thoughts of a Loner)

HeadFace

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So my head was filled with thoughts tonight, so I had to get it out. So, I used my blog ( unacceptable )
Here's what I sketched down:

What would a life without people be, to loners? Media, books, pop culture… It’s the closest thing we have to a social life. And how do we have that? People. Loners feed off of that. And what if that was all gone? What if the only people who walked the world, were us, the lonesome? I honestly can’t find an answer…
Would we, the loners, be the new creators? I mean we’re already all around. We’re the best athletes, your favorite musician (Elvis, Michael J., etc). We’re the best artists (Do I even need to list examples?). We’re your favorite superhero (Superman, Spider man, Batman…)
Or would we be, for a lack of better term, too “stuck in our shell” to do anything? Would there be an uprising of suicides, due to boredom, emptiness, and loneliness?

And, I know, if you’re a friend and reading this you’ll probably be thinking: “Hey.. What about me? Aren’t I your friend?”
And the answer is probably yes. Loner’s can have friends too. It’s just common that we dont have many. Infact, I can list all of mine right now

* Sara (<3)
* Spencer
* Chelsea
* Anna

Just because I have friends, doesn’t mean I’m not lonely. Most (probably about 95%) of the activities I’m involved in, well, are just by myself. Sometimes I get so lonely it’s painful. But it’s given me a better grasp of reality, I guess. It’s given me more time to think, develop values, stuff like that.

And yah know what I noticed? Whenever I’m walking around in a (very) public place, like a mall or whatever. There’s always those ****ing groups of *******s who mock me..

“Hey, can I be your friend?!”

“HI”

Then they laugh and run off to wherever. I know it sounds like I’m the *******, but really. They do it to mock me… It’s just that giggle and sarcastic tone that gives it away. And the fact that they’re walking away and laughing in their lil’ group doesn’t help much..

It’s funny, too. My parents always wanted to be like all the other kids, and be at some park or mall with a group every weekend. Yet my dad can’t even open a can of axe correctly. Neither can my mom figure out that the laptop is silent because headphones are plugged in…

Huh…

I wanna be an author some day. Its just like, I wanna help the self mutilator. Especially if the cause of that is by loneliness, or some sorta phobia/anxiety disorder.

On top of that, I wanna be a profiler… You know, the ones who take a look at someone and know what they’re thinking.

Some sort of sociologist, too. I want to study the mass. You know, society.

and a psychiatrist/psychologist. Some sort of counselour, I suppose. For teenagers. Middle school through high school. Mayhaps even college. Just as I said about being an author, I wanna help the mentally unstable. I wanna support the people who harm themself. The young, stressed out smoker. But I have no idea how to get people to spill the beans so quickly. I mean, that’s one of the main components of being a counselour/psychiatrist, no? You gotta get them to feel comfortable with you, and get them to open up to you.

And to end this little rant, or mayhaps even an ‘informative’ paragraph, I kinda wanna recommend a couple books:

* Party of One: Loner’s Manifesto by Anneli Rufus

Kind of speaks to me, and puts my thoughts into words. Also gives me a more universal and open view of the other loners out there. Really, even if the life of a loner sounds pathetic and boring, you should check this out.

* Cutting by Steven Levenkron

Self harm is always on my mind. It’s kind of pathetic too, I try to stop others from doing it, but I do it occasionally as well. Really great read, and great reference. Check it out sometime.

Reblog with thoughts (or if you can, use the reply/comment function. Tumblr is ****ing complicated, so it’d be easier to reblog with yer thoughts.) *

Hope I entertained you for a few minutes

*Well obviously this isn't Tumblr. But I'd still love to know what you all think.
 
Yeah... I don't like people who pretend to want to be friends with you... just to mock you..... You want to be an author? Nice... Write a self-help book or something? Or is it more towards fiction?
 

HeadFace

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Nah, not fiction. Sort of a biography/self-help book. But that'll be later on the road xD I'm too sleepy to think about it right now, anyway
 

Feathers

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Hm, maybe some people just really want to be friends with you, or girls can want you to be interested in them, and don't know anything smarter to say? ;)

It can be tough to be a teenager...

I'm not sure if it's smart to write too much about yourself or your friends specifically (with names) online, in case some local teenagers might read it (and then say something silly as you wrote above.. That's the only other explanation I could think of, except them trying to get friendly with you or get you interested.. ;))

If you want to be a counsellor, you still have quite a few years of studying in front of you... You can totally learn about the communication techniques and such, there are lots of great books out there... Check your local library what they have on effective communication and such...

If you have four friends or more, that's more than some people have... It may depend what you can talk about with them, or what kind of things you can do together... When you go study you'll meet new friends with even more interesting minds and interests... It's always good to keep older friends too..

I remember that in primary school and high school a lot of the stuff I thought about was different from what my friends were interested in...

If you want to be an author, it's good to start learning about it soon - it's doable but you may need some self-discipline! :)
Your career interests do seem compatible, many experts write books...

Hope you stop cutting, there are other ways to make yourself feel better!! Maybe make a list of things you enjoy (eg take a nice shower, go running, etc?)

I think society today is full of people alone in their rooms in front of computers... It may be a good idea to start reconnecting with people in RL too.. Yeah people need some 'alone time' to create stuff... It's also good to then re-connect with others in meaningful ways (and that may stop the big pharma companies from just prescribing pills too!!)
In the old times, people worked together and interacted naturally...
Today, this may not be so easy...
Well, many people have taken up gardening and volunteering and making crafts together with other people too...
So maybe you and your friends could go work on a project or something? Or do some volunteering or such where you might also meet new people and do meaningful things?
 

Diend

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You're really eloquent. I think you show promise in what you're going to achieve. I think you should stop cutting...period.
 
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