The reason why you are single.

[Gieky]

Well I shouldn't say that here really but when it comes to your post ... I might just do it. I know that guy (BTW he's not my friend) from my college classes and he's a f****** pimp. He always gets a lot of girls by chatting online or even the ones he meets in various places where he moves in real life. He was in one relationship, break up and now just spending his whole life pimping with girls, having fun with them (one night stands) or he just get into relationship with them just to have fun (sex) with them couple of times and dumps them at the end hurting them . Lately he had one night stand with one girl and it appears that she might be pregnant (feeling sick and vomiting) and yes he used a condom.

Well you might ask me how do I know all that ? Well we sometimes talk on the breaks about girls and life in general. BTW he's just 18. I'm kind of jealous that he gets that many girls which he gets for granted and could have great relationship with but from the another side of it I'm totally p***** about it, when I'm thinking about it deeply how many girls he had hurt.

Yes I know that there are so many people like criminals, lazy, drug addicts, tatted-up/pierced all over. Mainly I can see it in Jerremy Kyle Show. There was one guy who was humiliating and treating that girl as dog. I'm serious about it and she was still with him. There was another case where drug-addict who was additionally on Benefits was just lying in bed and spending all our money on drugs. I mean it all happens and I must says life is unfair unfortunately. I don't really see a reason why girls shouldn't go after shy and very peaceful guy instead of wasting their time on the guys who would cheat on them without seconds thought and also should get their s*** together and respect women more. I mean, c'mon where is that justice right here ?? :idontknow:

There is no such thing as justice when it comes to love. You aren't "owed" a girl just because you are a nice guy, the same way I am not "owed" my prince charming just because I exist as a female. Life would be much easier if the movies were right all along!

 

[Andreas84]

Well I wouldn't go as far as to say I'm unhappy being single, but I definitely would like to meet someone to share the rest of my life with.

I think it's very important for me to feel good about myself and that's something that's never been the case. I've come a hell of a long way but there are still certain things that I need to overcome before I allow someone else to be a part of my life. I'm 30 years old and I still have a lot to learn about myself and life in general.

I'd be lying if said I didn't worry that my lack of relationship experience being an issue at this age. That being said, I'm sure the right woman would be understanding and if not, she isn't really worth my time. I'd rather be happy within then to force the issue just for the sake of being in a relationship.

 

[bsammy]

^^yeah ive tried forcing a relationship just to be in one, doesnt work and is pointless..

 

[Heremit]

incapable or just unable to atm??.

I don't know.... Probably not only 'just unable' :question:

 

[Jarofloneliness]

I'm not encouraging you to become an abusive criminal here...lol..but my point was that those types of guys usually don't give a f*** about anything. They don't look at a girl on the street and think "I'm not worthy". Many probably don't even have a concept of worthy or not worthy.

This can be exciting to a girl because:

1. it shows a certain amount of confidence. It takes a lot "nerve" to not give a f*** about anything. lol.
2. she wants to be the person to change the guy into something "decent".

It's a challenge.

There are girls out there who would truly(and I mean truly and genuinely) like a nice, well rounded guy but the allure of a challenge is a powerful thing to some girls.

LOL, I'm not an abusive criminal and either don't want to be .. LOL .. Anyway that's true what you have said because they basically don't have a value of themselves ? Plus to the thing you have said about changing the guy into something "decent", out there are girls who like to crack shy or mysterious guys just like shells and it's at least what I have heard lately.

After my last relationship, I've lost faith that there is anyone out there for me. I'm sick of the BS. I wouldn't say I'm happy being single, but I do feel relief and freedom. If I want to pig out, I don't have someone telling me that I'll get fat and people will think less of him for being with a fat girl. If I want to hang out with my guy friends, no one guilts me into not hanging out because they're paranoid I will cheat. If someone texts me and I forget to reply I won't get hounded about why. If I don't feel like going out, I won't get told I have become boring. I don't have to deal with the double standard about how it's ok for men to cheat but not women. I don't think all guys are like this but until I get some confidence and self esteem, this is the type of guy I will continue to attract. I'd rather be alone.

Well I never heard about this one so I guess it's some stereotype or something however I must disagree on this one. At least you attracting someone here where some of us here don't attract anyone:idontknow:. Sad but that's true.

>>>in theory many of these girls want a guy thats nice and will be genuine and caring but then they tend to get really bored with guys like this and want a challenge..

ehh ... and there it is, where drama is coming into play.

I dunno about you guys but there are some people who are asking girls out through Facebook .... I mean it's still allright but for me it looks kind of low and lame if you ask me. I have been with this girl who I think I mentioned before at my first post, who I become friends with and obviously I wanted to go further than this and finally I get some b%#* and asked her out IRL somehow. It obviously didn't worked out but at least I asked the first girl out not to mention how much nerves and courage it costed me to do this.

 

[Gieky]

Double standard was probably not the right wording. It's not a generally accepted thing, but there are some people out there who act this way, and it's dealing with those people that I do not miss.

Also, the grass is always greener on the other side!

 

[Bronson99]

Plus to the thing you have said about changing the guy into something "decent", out there are girls who like to crack shy or mysterious guys just like shells and it's at least what I have heard lately.

I heard they may exist also, but have found little-to-no proof of this.

My experience seems to suggest shyness in men is usually a turn-off. That may be oversimplifying things, but it's just what I've seen. And also what I've heard.

 

[Addictrose]

The reason why im single is because I've lost control of feelings and doesn't know what im searching for and also as soon as i get close to someone my body goes in to shut down mode and Il basicly go crawl under a rock.

 

[bsammy]

I heard they may exist also, but have found little-to-no proof of this.

My experience seems to suggest shyness in men is usually a turn-off. That may be oversimplifying things, but it's just what I've seen. And also what I've heard.

well in my experience, the girls that want to crack or get to know the 'shy guy', this type of thing happens in JUNIOR HIGH school..its fine to be shy when a boy is that age, girls might find it cute but when you hit high school and beyond, it is a major turn off for the vast majority of women..that said, i find shy women to be a little bit of a turnoff as i know how much work and socializing it will take just to try and get them out of their shell...i dont have that type of energy or determination tbh..again, it depends how shy..

 

[Luckylife]

Be wary of not crossing the line into obsession territory. Sounds like she barely knows you while you've been watching her for months. A relationship has to go both ways. If you're really interested just ask her out and stop admiring her. That's not a healthy relationship.

Well of course she doesn't know me but I am not a complete stranger. I see her at the local bar and think she is good looking and I have spent time speaking to her friends. Next step... speak to her. Besides, I find it harmless to find out about people in this age of information. I don't think I become obsessed just easily annoyed if or when little happens.