The Phrase "Sorry..." has no Place in this World

[mikebird]

Whatever a person does, it had a meaning.

I don't want to bother with any examples. I have none. This is generic.
I don't think any apology is ever necessary in law.

If anyone does anything negative to someone, they might get punished
but any apology leads back to guilt, regret, or a feeling of low status.

Everyone should have motivation for doing anything, and stick with the reason, and hold their head high.

Law is a mess. It was all created for a logical reason, but it's far too subjective, and restricts everyone's lives, and only £$€ can bypass it.

 

[Feathers]

Hey, I disagree... Sometimes saying 'I'm sorry' CAN make a difference...

I've seen it work for a lovely couple: my friend and her now husband. They could argue as ****, but then they knew how to say 'I'm sorry' and make up too... which is really important as well!!

For some people, it can be an 'excuse' or some people may not take it seriously... so it depends.. I guess it works for some people, and not for others. But don't write it off 'for everyone'... Get to know the person and see what brings best communication...

If it 'doesn't work', likely the relationship is not very healthy and there may be 'guilt trips'/manipulation going on...

It does depend if someone says it from the heart, and if they really mean it, and eg meant no harm in first place and it was just a misunderstanding...

If a bully or eg violent/abusive parent apologizes and REALLY MEANS IT (not repeating the deeds ideally) it CAN make a difference... If he only says the words, it's 'better than nothing' but not so effective... People need to change a way of thinking and re-acting if it's to be effective, or at least try their best and make an honest effort.

 

[Gerdje]

I believe a "Sorry" only leads to guilt or lowered status if it isn't meant.
otoh, many of us tend to sorry themselves for things there is no need to excuse us for, in this case, a "Sorry" indeed leads to guilt or lowered self esteem.

 

[Feathers]

Well, some people can feel too guilty about everything and can say 'sorry' all the time, this is probably not healthy too... There needs to be a balance, only say it when it's really important and needed and when you really mean it, and/or it can significantly improve communication/situation...

 

[Thelema]

Intention isn't everything. If an incompetent doctor saws off your leg because he thinks it will save you life, but it doesn't, he shouldn't hold his head up high.

Hitler's intention was doing a good thing. I don't think anyone would say Nazis should hold their head high because they intended to do good.

Being sorry means you see that you made a mistake, regardless of your intentions.

 

[JJB]

Saying 'sorry' can be a healer to many, but like me you can say it to often and almost seem guilty for some reason. It's a sign of a lack of confidence or self esteem I guess, or something anyway. I say sorry so much that my family continually point it out, so in that regard what you say does have some truth. A sign of weakness to.