mienaino
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I have been thinking lately about why this started. Why am I anxious? Temperament probably has something to do with it, but a history of bad social experiences surely must have had the greatest role in bringing this to bear. At least, I think so. Then, when considering why I'm so ineffective in social situations, when I'm able to act otherwise reasonably normal for a limited time, it occurred to me that I have no noticable sense of humor. In the past few months, I've set out to find an alternative to my seeming lack of wit. I'm quite cynical, so I've started to articulate my cynicisms and make sarcastic remarks whenever appropriate (which is almost always). The results have been better than I ever would have imagined. People respond to humor. Out of everything I've ever tried, it is the only thing that people respond to. I went out on the first date of my life lastnight. The anxiety is still there, but I think I've found the floorplan for a strategy, at last. That means confidence to me, and confidence is half the battle.