Teen/College Party

[silent1]

I've never been to one but one guy I know keeps urging me to come, and I've always refused but now I'm trying to muster up the courage to go.

What I'm wondering is what actually happens for 4-5 hours here? I know there is a lot of drinking(and I don't drink much so that's partly why I've always avoided these) but is that all that goes on, drinking and drinking games? I just feel if I went I would just be some 'creep' just standing in the corner watching everyone.

 

[Walk]

Sweet bro, go for it.

Try to meet new people.

I do encourage you to drink, to loosen up.

Don't drink more than 5 beers though.

Again, GO FOR IT.

 

[cawny]

Don't worry about it too much, I go to college parties all the time with my housemates. I usually just stand around and have a drink. There's usually beer pong and dancing going on. But I just stand back or sit down and watch people. It's entertaining to watch drunk people.

 

[dwade]

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[danstelter]

You can go to it if you want and see how it goes. If you don't like it, you don't have to return. Just be careful because some parties can be pretty wild. Many people get so drunk that they don't know what's going on, so be ready for anything. Oh...and always guard your drink!

 

[silent1]

Thanks for the tips guys.

I'll try and check one out sometime. Still nervous though.

 

[Havocan]

I always dread going to places like that because I get stuck in a corner watching the others around me. And they're playing so loud music that you cannot keep a conversation going. That's why I get wasted myself and say and do a lot of stupid things which I'm scoffed at for doing the other day. Oh well^^.

I'd still encourage you to go, but stick to someone you know or talk to, it's the best. Being at a college party without knowing anyone is just plain awful

 

[silent1]

ok good to know.

one more question, if it's not a kegger, does that mean you bring your own alcohol, like a 6-pack or a bottle of something?

 

[eso]

honestly, nothing. If you're not interested in drinking or you have a hard time meeting people, these parties suck. I've been to my fair share of them.

The only time I feel really good at one of these is if I am friends with the majority of the people in attendance. If that is the case I have a grand old time. I still sit there quiet a lot of times but I don't have issues talking to others since I know them well, and generally I feel nice.

If you go and it's nothing but strangers and one or two friends who run off somewheres, honestly most of the time it's not great. I can think of a few times I went to these parties and got into great conversations with strangers etc but 90% of the other times I sat there doing nothing like a wallflower. If there isn't some kind of organized activity that you can comment on or take part in, like games or whatever, these parties are completely awful.

With the few times that I have had a good time at these parties, I can see the appeal of going. But considering the ratio of good experience to boring experience is like 1:10, I most of the time figure it's not worth it and don't go.

 

[weak]

Pretty much everything I have to say has already been said. Eso nailed it on the head.

If you're not a very social person and plan on attending a party loaded with people you don't know, you're only shot at having a good time would be to get piss drunk. Otherwise you'll end up sitting in the corner watching everyone else have the fun, as Havocan mentioned.

I've been to maybe 8 or 9 real parties in my life, none of which were really that big... maybe 30 to 40 people. The only thing that got me out the door was the fact that in all cases I had at least 3 friends with me, and knew at least a few more people at the party itself. At about half of them I got drunk, and the other half I stayed sober... and every single time I stayed sober I ended up sitting on the couch the whole night like a douche bag, not knowing what to do. And as for the times I got drunk... actually had a lot of fun even though I generally hate alcohol.

If I was you, I'd first try to get a feel for what kind of people are gonna be at this party. See if it's your type of crowd or not.

I remember in highschool, somehow me and 2 friends ended up getting invited to a friend of a friend's party. The host was some stuck up chick from another school. Parents were out of town, so she was throwing a huge ass party for the 'popular' kids of another school.

I had a bad feeling about it, since we didn't really know anyone going. But my outgoing friend insisted relentlessly. So I finally agreed to go, expecting the worse of course..

We didn't even make it through the door. We knocked, they opened and then proceed to just laugh at us and then slammed the door in our faces. Even a full bottle of vodka wouldn't have saved me from the humiliation I felt that night haha =/

 

[Walk]

And as for the times I got drunk... actually had a lot of fun even though I generally hate alcohol.

I think it's important to point out that being drunk isn't a solution. Most people who deal with their problems by getting drunk are not fun to be around with.

It's mainly the loosening up effect that three or four beers gives you for those of you who would end up doing literally nothing in social events (like me). I probably drink three times in a year and just enough to be buzzin but not too drunk.

If I was you, I'd first try to get a feel for what kind of people are gonna be at this party. See if it's your type of crowd or not

Yeah, if you vibe with the people, I imagine things to be much easier.

The few parties I've been to were of people I didn't really want to meet again.

I'd still say try it out because you never know who you might meet or what lessons you might learn being in such an environment. It definitely gives you a big boost of confidence knowing that you've actually tried it out and realized you didn't like it.

 

[eso]

As an addition to my last post, if you are still pretty young and haven't been to many parties (or any at all) I actually would recommend going to them for several years to come. Why? Because like I said before, my made up ratio of success (success meaning "you'll have a good time and talk to lots of cool strangers") seems to be about 1 in 10.

But the thing is, that's the same chance for anyone. The only people who can bust those odds are super-outgoing people. People go for that 1 in 10 chance, it's their decision to risk it and hope this is one of the times something cool happens. I can think of at least 5 or so parties in my entire life where I had a great time where I was by myself or only knew 1-2 people there. But I'm in my 30s so i've been to quite a few busts as well. Although I have to say since I'm already as old as I am I don't really have the need to go to these anymore. I'm settled down, I have a girlfriend and friends who are all settled in too, etc.

 

[ritz]

I'm sort of in the same situation. A few of my buddies go to nightclubs pretty much every week, and my SA has always prevented me from joining them. But I'm thinking of going one of these times. I just don't know what to do there. I can't dance, I can't talk to women (or talk to anyone in general), I don't like drinking. I just think I would look and feel completely out of place.

 

[getbornagain]

I dunno how parties in America go, but up in Canada parties consist of drinking, sex, and drug abuse. People can do that shit for hours upon hours.