strangers who randomly talk to you, doncha just hate it?

[MariahCarey]

i was in a shop and i had to wait in the que, then all of a sudden this guy from behind started makin conversation with me:

guy: lovely weather isn't it?
me: yeah
guy: this is a great country
me: i know, it is isn't it *fake laugh*

i was just thinkin to myself "earth swallow me now", i just hate it when this happens. i know they're trying to be nice but still! has anyone encountered a situation like this? and had a random stranger try to make conversation with you outta nowhere?

 

[arjuna]

i was in a shop and i had to wait in the que, then all of a sudden this guy from behind started makin conversation with me:

guy: lovely weather isn't it?
me: yeah
guy: this is a great country
me: i know, it is isn't it *fake laugh*

i was just thinkin to myself "earth swallow me now", i just hate it when this happens. i know they're trying to be nice but still! has anyone encountered a situation like this? and had a random stranger try to make conversation with you outta nowhere?

Yes. If you can think of something to say back and maybe start a conversation it can be very helpful. The only thing is some times it could be a person who is interested in you sexually: which is often a bit lame, specially is you are heterosexual and they are homosexual (or vice versa). Anyway, except for those weird cases...I must say that about a year ago I would have hated them talking to me. But now, more and more, I realize that I want to talk to people. I actually need society for my survival so it is in my best interest to be talkative. If someone talks to you, I would see it as a chance to be a bit more happy in life.

 

[prince1]

mabye he also is trying to overcome SA. Who knows

 

[black_mamba]

mabye he also is trying to overcome SA. Who knows

That is such a lovely way to look at the situation! 8) *jots down note*

 

[Moonie]

It can be frustrating when strangers try to talk to you. Sometims I like it and am happy because it feels good to be noticed. But, sometimes I just don't have the energy for it. I guess I also dislike it because I don't know what to say back. I end up looking bored, bitchy, or boring.

 

[Shonen_Yo]

I like it nowadays. Makes me feel normal and like someone is acknowledging the wonderfully unique individual that I am. :lol:

 

[spct]

yeah, i get that sometimes, especially serving customers at work

the worst thing about it is often i don't know what to say back, hence might come across as a little rude & self-absorbed (although i do try to be pleasant & seem interested) which frustrates me

& if i do try to say something, it's often quite forced/awkward, & so i end up regretting what i said or how i said it afterwards

i guess you learn through experience though :?

 

[IceLad]

Strangers rarely talk to me, but generally I like it when it happens. It helps to make me feel that I'm approachable rather than standoffish.

However, I can appreciate the drawbacks of not knowing what to say to them, and how to end the conversation. Also, if I feel as if the conversation went badly, then I can dwell on it for some time.

 

[Niles]

I love it when random people talk to me out of nowhere. I charm them with my wit and make them laugh and fall in love with me. But i must say, the way they walk away carrying a weird expression on their face always puzzles me :?

 

[steel_sparks]

whenever this happens to me all that goes throuhg my head are the words "please stop talking to me" but then i'd get paranoid if they didn't talk to me.

 

[pinkputter]

YES i hated this so much when I had the worst part of SA ...

If i noticed some one about to make small talk with me i would just avoid making eye contact.

But looking back on it, I am pretty much all the way recovered.... and over time it was those little things that built my "courage emotional muscles"

Like without those little daily things I may not be as recovered. So really you can look at these things we try to avoid as opportunity to grow.

 

[the_paladin]

As ironic as it seems, I've tried resorting to talking to random women in public, on the street, etc. When I looked back, it was quite a feat considering how much anxiety I had to fight in the process.. unfortunately, I came off as very creepy every time so I stopped.