periwinkle1973
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Hi all,
I'm new here...don't really know if there's a protocol I need to follow or if I can just jump right in so I'm just gonna hold my breath, jump, and hope for the best.
I suffer from agoraphobia and have so for about 15 years now. About 10 years ago I started going to a psychologist and psychiatrist to seek treatment for the agoraphobia and also for OCD, depression, and anxiety (I think that's all of 'em). It was slow going but eventually with their help and some handy dandy Paxil I was able to come out of the muck and the mire. The depression stopped almost immediately (with a bad day here or there over the past couple of years, but nothing I couldn't handle with a nice hardy pep talk to myself) but the agoraphobia/social anxiety was a little harder. Eventually I got to the point where I was able to go out and about without much trouble and even went and got my bachelor's degree. So far so good. Then about 2 1/2 years ago I moved from Maryland (home state) to Virginia to go to grad school. Big step...away from my friends and family (i.e. comfort zone) but at first all seemed well. In fact, I met a great guy and fell in love. Sweet! Everything was going swimmingly...so much so that I went off the Paxil (with full psychiatrist and psychologist approval) last March. It was a little rough going at first...my bad days (depression, agoraphobia, anxiety) got a little more frequent but again, nothing I couldn't handle. The negative voices in my head that I've always suffered from (never went away entirely) were still there but again, nothing I couldn't handle.
Well, somehow things aren't going so well anymore. And I'm not really sure why. It's just a bunch o' little things I think. School is way stressful (working on my thesis, finishing up my final semester) and it's gotten to the point where I just want to say "okay! you win! I quit!!!" My roommate moved out of town abruptly so I had to move in with my boyfriend. Not stressful in and of itself but...I don't drive (no license) and he doesn't live in walking distance to ANYWHERE. I'm in school but have no classes (it's grad school). I have hardly any friends here and the ones I do have are through my boyfriend and we aren't exactly social butterflies. I feel SO isolated...here by myself all day long with nothing but my school work, stress and negative thoughts to keep me company. It's gotten really bad the past two weeks. So much so that suicide has started popping into my head again and I've started fantasizing about cutting myself...something I haven't done in a while. I've been trying to keep a cheerful facade up for those I do see but my boyfriend has seen through it and I've talked to him a little about what I'm going through but not all of it. Not the brunt of it. Not the suicide/cutting part. I just can't talk about things. I have a hard time articulating even to myself everything wrong that is going on. Everytime I open my mouth to tell him what I'm going through, nothing comes out. The words get stuck. I say things like "I keep thinking about stuff." He's like, "could ya be more specific" and the thing is I can't. I try but I gloss it over so it doesn't sound like I'm quite as nutso as I think it'll sound that I am. But I hate this. I hate feeling like "IT" is back...it being the blackness and despair that I thought I had put behind me. I hate crying all the time...and worse, hiding the fact that I'm crying or upset so people won't know something is really wrong. I don't have medical assistance anymore and don't have a way to get to an appointment even if I could make one. I hate the thought of going back on meds because I was so proud of myself (as was everyone else) for going off of them and dealing with life on my own...I feel like such a loser and wuss for having to depend on chemical assistance just to wake up in the morning and face the day (which is becoming harder and harder). I just feel like I'm stuck. I feel like I'm on the edge of a precipice getting ready to fall into the blackness and I have no idea how to help myself. Today I went and found my old razors. They're rusty and nasty looking but they seem to still be sharp. But I haven't done anything yet...I thought I'd come online and see what was out there. Buy myself some time. Writing this has helped. Sorry to ramble on quite so much...especially my first time here. Damn, not a good first impression is it? <sheepish look> Anyway, if anyone has any words of wisdom or advice I'd love to hear it. Thanks for listening.
I'm new here...don't really know if there's a protocol I need to follow or if I can just jump right in so I'm just gonna hold my breath, jump, and hope for the best.
I suffer from agoraphobia and have so for about 15 years now. About 10 years ago I started going to a psychologist and psychiatrist to seek treatment for the agoraphobia and also for OCD, depression, and anxiety (I think that's all of 'em). It was slow going but eventually with their help and some handy dandy Paxil I was able to come out of the muck and the mire. The depression stopped almost immediately (with a bad day here or there over the past couple of years, but nothing I couldn't handle with a nice hardy pep talk to myself) but the agoraphobia/social anxiety was a little harder. Eventually I got to the point where I was able to go out and about without much trouble and even went and got my bachelor's degree. So far so good. Then about 2 1/2 years ago I moved from Maryland (home state) to Virginia to go to grad school. Big step...away from my friends and family (i.e. comfort zone) but at first all seemed well. In fact, I met a great guy and fell in love. Sweet! Everything was going swimmingly...so much so that I went off the Paxil (with full psychiatrist and psychologist approval) last March. It was a little rough going at first...my bad days (depression, agoraphobia, anxiety) got a little more frequent but again, nothing I couldn't handle. The negative voices in my head that I've always suffered from (never went away entirely) were still there but again, nothing I couldn't handle.
Well, somehow things aren't going so well anymore. And I'm not really sure why. It's just a bunch o' little things I think. School is way stressful (working on my thesis, finishing up my final semester) and it's gotten to the point where I just want to say "okay! you win! I quit!!!" My roommate moved out of town abruptly so I had to move in with my boyfriend. Not stressful in and of itself but...I don't drive (no license) and he doesn't live in walking distance to ANYWHERE. I'm in school but have no classes (it's grad school). I have hardly any friends here and the ones I do have are through my boyfriend and we aren't exactly social butterflies. I feel SO isolated...here by myself all day long with nothing but my school work, stress and negative thoughts to keep me company. It's gotten really bad the past two weeks. So much so that suicide has started popping into my head again and I've started fantasizing about cutting myself...something I haven't done in a while. I've been trying to keep a cheerful facade up for those I do see but my boyfriend has seen through it and I've talked to him a little about what I'm going through but not all of it. Not the brunt of it. Not the suicide/cutting part. I just can't talk about things. I have a hard time articulating even to myself everything wrong that is going on. Everytime I open my mouth to tell him what I'm going through, nothing comes out. The words get stuck. I say things like "I keep thinking about stuff." He's like, "could ya be more specific" and the thing is I can't. I try but I gloss it over so it doesn't sound like I'm quite as nutso as I think it'll sound that I am. But I hate this. I hate feeling like "IT" is back...it being the blackness and despair that I thought I had put behind me. I hate crying all the time...and worse, hiding the fact that I'm crying or upset so people won't know something is really wrong. I don't have medical assistance anymore and don't have a way to get to an appointment even if I could make one. I hate the thought of going back on meds because I was so proud of myself (as was everyone else) for going off of them and dealing with life on my own...I feel like such a loser and wuss for having to depend on chemical assistance just to wake up in the morning and face the day (which is becoming harder and harder). I just feel like I'm stuck. I feel like I'm on the edge of a precipice getting ready to fall into the blackness and I have no idea how to help myself. Today I went and found my old razors. They're rusty and nasty looking but they seem to still be sharp. But I haven't done anything yet...I thought I'd come online and see what was out there. Buy myself some time. Writing this has helped. Sorry to ramble on quite so much...especially my first time here. Damn, not a good first impression is it? <sheepish look> Anyway, if anyone has any words of wisdom or advice I'd love to hear it. Thanks for listening.