Social skills

[My_shrink]

Based on the experience of being an outsider, and how you are then treated by some people,
and how generally accepted the behavior of those people are, i don't have any desire to make
friends at all costs.I don't want to kiss up to or pretend to like someone to be "part of the gang".

When i see someone who hangs with a group of people, and they have the lowest status in the group,
and they are treated badly for no rational reason, people ignore what they say, roll their eyes at
every joke they attempt to make, i think to myself:
"why the fuck do you put up with it? I would rather have no friends for the rest oF my life than
to be in your situation".

I do not have any dominating desire to make friends, i used to sometimes when i was younger but
not now.

For me obtaining social skills is not a means to create a huge network of people i only have a
superficial relationship with and call "friends".

But obtaining social skills is important because many of the things i want in life are tied to
interaction with people.Getting a good education, getting a good job and thus get the money to
buy the stuff i want and do the things i want (very important to me).

I think of myself as a fairly smart person.I think that one of the things i fear the most is to
be in a situation where i have to put up with being ridiculed by someone who is not any smarter
than me and who have a crappy and unoriginal sense of humor (like most of the little turds do).
These are the things you experience as an outsider, the crocked smiles and little comments from
unoriginal, loud mouthed little turds.I have such utter contempt for it, so i won't ever again
"half try" to become more social.I need a clear reason and motive for trying.

For me it is a matter of standing up for myself, to not be made fun of, to not be bullied,
and having social skills is just another means to get other things.

Anyone else have similar thoughts?

 

[Warlock]

You remind me of myself somewhat.


I recommend you go read up on Schizoid personality disorder. I think you'll find it very interesting if you don't know about it already.

 

[My_shrink]

I stay way away of psychiatry, psychiatrists and
psychological definitions of different "disorders".

Being very much outside the social norm does not
mean there is something wrong with you.

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

I agree with pretty much everything you've said. I'd rather have no friends(which I do have none) than to be treated like crap by people who are supposed to be your "friends". Yeah I'm sure I could find friends if I pretended to be somebody else, and done nothing but agree with everything they said and done everything THEIR way...but it wouldn't be worth it, and I would never do that. It wouldn't be like me to do that at all. If that's what it takes to be accepted by anybody, then I'll just keep my own company.
And like you, I used to kinda want friends...but now that I'm older, I realize they aren't that important. They just screw you over in the end anyway. I have my family and my boyfriend, that's all I need.