Rubylicious
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Social anxiety + alcohol
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lonely_world
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Hello I just had a post up about alcohol abuse because this is something that I have been dealing with more recently. I'm sober now, but my last binge of drinking was when I went on a date again after way too long and was so nervous. And i've been the most depressed and lonely that i've ever been lately and it's killing me inside. My history of social anxiety/phobia is similiar to yours where I feel that people will find me too quiet,boring,etc. And I also turn down invitations to social events, and even avoid working which I know is the worst. I have been way too shy,anxious scared in social situatons for a long time. If you want, you can email me at: [email protected] anytime if you need someone to talk to. Good luck.
Lexmark
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I bet this is a common story
I know its exactly like mine
Only differance really is i think i have lots to say but i just need to drink to get any confidence or even enthuisasm for wateva is going on.
Of course like you i have a habbit of drinking to much and acting like a fucking tool. I lost so many freinds coz of this but it doesnt bother me that much coz if i wasent drinking i dont know if i would be interested in being around them anyway.
That worry you get the next day about wtf did i say/do is so painful now that 99% of the time ill only drink by myself at home.
I know its exactly like mine
Only differance really is i think i have lots to say but i just need to drink to get any confidence or even enthuisasm for wateva is going on.
Of course like you i have a habbit of drinking to much and acting like a fucking tool. I lost so many freinds coz of this but it doesnt bother me that much coz if i wasent drinking i dont know if i would be interested in being around them anyway.
That worry you get the next day about wtf did i say/do is so painful now that 99% of the time ill only drink by myself at home.
getbornagain
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Yeah I'm a boozehound too. Not so much for talking skills though... I drink because I can't stand being sober anymore, pretty much a bad way of dealing with depression. Friday tomorrow woooo!!
Fairylicious
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typically, i don't like the taste of alcohol, so i figure it will be pretty hard to turn my into a real drinker, though i do drink. I prefer to smoke away my anxiety.... pot has been my savior for years... it's definetly the only way i got through university and got my degree (ironically in Psychology).
But my Cousin (the same one i mention all the time), has also been dealing with SA for the last 10 years and she does use Alcohol to deal with it (along with a shit-load of medications). In fact, she often turns down events due to the amount of people unless they are family-related parties (and even that is up in the air until the last min). She currently lives with a piece of shit drunk who i hate with every fiber of my being (i lived with them for a while and it only made things worse for me because he was verbably abusive and it triggered me too much). While i was living there, to deal with all the bullshit he dealt out, she drank a lot more... supposedly now that i've moved out, she drinks a lot less.... but i KNOW she's lying to me about the situation there.
Anyhow, she considereds her alcohol (though she's a stoner too), to be her social lube, and the only way she'll go to a big event is if she's well "pre-partied." i think it's sad just cuz she's such an awesome person and she really doesn't need to drink herself under the table for people to like her, she just needs it for her to deal with people.
I hope that in the future, we both will be able to handle society and people without our self-medicating crutches.
in fact, i hope that for all of us.
But my Cousin (the same one i mention all the time), has also been dealing with SA for the last 10 years and she does use Alcohol to deal with it (along with a shit-load of medications). In fact, she often turns down events due to the amount of people unless they are family-related parties (and even that is up in the air until the last min). She currently lives with a piece of shit drunk who i hate with every fiber of my being (i lived with them for a while and it only made things worse for me because he was verbably abusive and it triggered me too much). While i was living there, to deal with all the bullshit he dealt out, she drank a lot more... supposedly now that i've moved out, she drinks a lot less.... but i KNOW she's lying to me about the situation there.
Anyhow, she considereds her alcohol (though she's a stoner too), to be her social lube, and the only way she'll go to a big event is if she's well "pre-partied." i think it's sad just cuz she's such an awesome person and she really doesn't need to drink herself under the table for people to like her, she just needs it for her to deal with people.
I hope that in the future, we both will be able to handle society and people without our self-medicating crutches.
in fact, i hope that for all of us.
jiujitsu
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I drink a lot. Well, on weekends. I hate hanging out with people when I'm sober. I still don't like it when I'm drunk, but it's not as bad. I just hate dealing with people. I guess it's more of a thing where I don't like the people I know enough. I don't know.
I love how alcohol numbs me. All the things that give me anxiety just don't hurt so much when I'm drunk. It's not like they go away, but I'm just not bothered by them. Well, maybe I'm bothered but I don't feel tightness in my chest or dread when I'm drunk so that's enough I suppose.
I love how alcohol numbs me. All the things that give me anxiety just don't hurt so much when I'm drunk. It's not like they go away, but I'm just not bothered by them. Well, maybe I'm bothered but I don't feel tightness in my chest or dread when I'm drunk so that's enough I suppose.