I was really shy before and still am at times (the journey is not over), and I also had trouble with going red very easily. Just like what suzycello said, accepting it is powerful. Accepting shyness is powerful too, like they say until you accept it (whatever 'it' is), it wont change. Once you accept your shyness, you can go from there and start to control your thought patterns. Like suzy mentioned, learn to love yourself and part of that is not allowing yourself to be disrespectful to yourself... and it starts in your thoughts. I am 45 now, and was severely shy growing up and into my 20's, in fact just a few yrs ago did I learn that it is okay to be myself with people. It takes dedication, consistency, going step by step, starting with your thought patterns... pay attention to them, stop any negative thoughts about yourself, don't allow yourself to disrespect yourself like that, be consistent. At first its going to seem impossible, it will be tiring, but stay with it and if you do, it wont be so much work and pretty soon you wont beat yourself up over things you said, didn't say, didn't do, or going over people judging you for this or that. I hardly ever think like that anymore. You have to be consistent, don't give up. It is worth it! I am now so much more free than I was 25 years ago, yes I'm a quiet person, but not shy, or not as shy, meaning it doesn't rule my life anymore, not even close! I can be myself with people and found it is okay. I am a licensed massage therapist part time (due to the economy) and work in a call center on the phones every day all day long, there is no way I could do either job even 10 yrs ago. It takes time, but it is worth it if you do the steps to get there! Pretty soon, instead of going red, you will start to be able to tease back or laugh at yourself or whatever it may be. And hey, if you still turn red, oh well, its okay, laugh at yourself, smile, because it is okay. : )
