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Like you ive pondered about my SAD for some time, trying to work out how to sort it out, recently ive had alot of sucess and my life has begun to shift a bit so i thought id share what ive learnt, maybe it will help someone...
You've got to remember social anxiety is just a name, a name for a feeling, a feeling that is experienced on a daily basis.
A very beneficial thing to you is to get rid of this identification of you having social anxiety, because you are building and perpetuating that image of yourself, if you are constantly telling yourself your are socially anxious or have a disorder, how will you ever get better?
I have a friend who constantly says 'its because of the depression', or 'my depressions really playing up', but its not depression, hes just feeling down because of certain things in his life, its him who labels himself as depressed and builds an image of himself as a depressed person.
You are whatever you believe yourself to be, ive begun to understand that, and i have begun to feel alot better by hammering it home, we have the choice in every moment to do things better, i believe it is habit that makes us fear and idle and chose the same things time after time, i cant think of a better reason. THink about it, we understand that our reactions to things are irrational, yet we cannot stop doing them, its a habit. We see it in a smoker knows smoking will have negative health effects and really wants to stop, but cant.
So how do you break that habit? with distraction at the vital moments, you need to re-program how you react to things, you need to cut the link with certain situations and the feeling of humiliation/blushing/choking. This is the answer, its how you would go about it if you were a smoker - whenever you have a craving distract yourself, put your mind onto something else, your brain eventually will think less and less about that nicotine fix.
Im only just begining to put this into practice, it is has taken alot of effort not to let myself slip, and i have slipped, but i keep my mind set on the feeling of not having SAD, and how incredible life would be, for myself i see no other way, im getting rid of this
You've got to remember social anxiety is just a name, a name for a feeling, a feeling that is experienced on a daily basis.
A very beneficial thing to you is to get rid of this identification of you having social anxiety, because you are building and perpetuating that image of yourself, if you are constantly telling yourself your are socially anxious or have a disorder, how will you ever get better?
I have a friend who constantly says 'its because of the depression', or 'my depressions really playing up', but its not depression, hes just feeling down because of certain things in his life, its him who labels himself as depressed and builds an image of himself as a depressed person.
You are whatever you believe yourself to be, ive begun to understand that, and i have begun to feel alot better by hammering it home, we have the choice in every moment to do things better, i believe it is habit that makes us fear and idle and chose the same things time after time, i cant think of a better reason. THink about it, we understand that our reactions to things are irrational, yet we cannot stop doing them, its a habit. We see it in a smoker knows smoking will have negative health effects and really wants to stop, but cant.
So how do you break that habit? with distraction at the vital moments, you need to re-program how you react to things, you need to cut the link with certain situations and the feeling of humiliation/blushing/choking. This is the answer, its how you would go about it if you were a smoker - whenever you have a craving distract yourself, put your mind onto something else, your brain eventually will think less and less about that nicotine fix.
Im only just begining to put this into practice, it is has taken alot of effort not to let myself slip, and i have slipped, but i keep my mind set on the feeling of not having SAD, and how incredible life would be, for myself i see no other way, im getting rid of this
We need more positive people like you on this forum.