EscapeArtist
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Sigh.
My mom just came into my room to share a story with me. She volunteers, talking to lonely seniors over the phone. She came in talking about how one of her seniors is going to the hospital and not coming out.. and she brought up a previous moment she had shared with her 2 months ago when a butterfly had landed on the lady's hand. Apparently my mom thinks the butterfly was a sign that she would go to the hospital and die there. Anyways, she was crying as she said all of this to me, but I had my back turned towards the computer, purposely to avoid her sobbing face. I do not know how to confront other people's emotions, especially when they are relying on me for comfort.. I just sat there with my back to her nodding my head. My mom said how she was shocked by my cold behavior.... And I feel HEARTLESS at the moment. Don't get me wrong, It's hard for me to hear people I love cry, maybe too hard so that I don't want to acknowledge it, but I do not know how to provide any type of physical comforting contact, I am way afraid of showing or seeing intense emotions. Of course, I was never comforted as a child, so I don't understand what was expected of me and I'm afraid of what was expected of me, because it's what I still want from somebody else, maybe inside I'm angry that I still have not received it and now it is expected of me, and it turns to fear, just like when i'm exposed to attention. This happens to when I see others angry and they expect me to calm them down, too
Does this have to do with social anxiety? Can people here relate?
My mom just came into my room to share a story with me. She volunteers, talking to lonely seniors over the phone. She came in talking about how one of her seniors is going to the hospital and not coming out.. and she brought up a previous moment she had shared with her 2 months ago when a butterfly had landed on the lady's hand. Apparently my mom thinks the butterfly was a sign that she would go to the hospital and die there. Anyways, she was crying as she said all of this to me, but I had my back turned towards the computer, purposely to avoid her sobbing face. I do not know how to confront other people's emotions, especially when they are relying on me for comfort.. I just sat there with my back to her nodding my head. My mom said how she was shocked by my cold behavior.... And I feel HEARTLESS at the moment. Don't get me wrong, It's hard for me to hear people I love cry, maybe too hard so that I don't want to acknowledge it, but I do not know how to provide any type of physical comforting contact, I am way afraid of showing or seeing intense emotions. Of course, I was never comforted as a child, so I don't understand what was expected of me and I'm afraid of what was expected of me, because it's what I still want from somebody else, maybe inside I'm angry that I still have not received it and now it is expected of me, and it turns to fear, just like when i'm exposed to attention. This happens to when I see others angry and they expect me to calm them down, too
Does this have to do with social anxiety? Can people here relate?
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