paul
Well-known member
I don't know about anyone else, but I find that sexism and gender roles contributes a lot to my SA.
At least where I am, guys & girls are "supposed" to do different things. The guys are supposed to be sex-obsessed, and the girls are supposed to be emotional. Also, talents - while girls can be good at really anything (besides stuff like football that would make them "manly") guys are supposed to be good at sports and stuff like that. That's especially hard for me as I have very very few talents.
If a guy feels sad about something, they are "girly" or "gay." And if a girl decides she doesn't like shopping and manicures and sleepovers, she's considered "manly." It just seems like there is a whole different idea of life that only depends on your gender.
I cannot understand this - since gender's something you can't control, shouldn't everybody just be able to act how they want? It's not like you'd treat somebody 4'11 differently than somebody 6'3.
With ridiculous things (at least in my opinion) like "never hit a girl no matter what she does to you" or "the man should be dominant in the relationship/make more money" or crap like that, I always feel really nervous about coming off as "girly." Which is another reason why I really just try not to talk unless I have to.
Is this just me, or does this affect anyone else either? Feel free to introduce your point of view.
At least where I am, guys & girls are "supposed" to do different things. The guys are supposed to be sex-obsessed, and the girls are supposed to be emotional. Also, talents - while girls can be good at really anything (besides stuff like football that would make them "manly") guys are supposed to be good at sports and stuff like that. That's especially hard for me as I have very very few talents.
If a guy feels sad about something, they are "girly" or "gay." And if a girl decides she doesn't like shopping and manicures and sleepovers, she's considered "manly." It just seems like there is a whole different idea of life that only depends on your gender.
I cannot understand this - since gender's something you can't control, shouldn't everybody just be able to act how they want? It's not like you'd treat somebody 4'11 differently than somebody 6'3.
With ridiculous things (at least in my opinion) like "never hit a girl no matter what she does to you" or "the man should be dominant in the relationship/make more money" or crap like that, I always feel really nervous about coming off as "girly." Which is another reason why I really just try not to talk unless I have to.
Is this just me, or does this affect anyone else either? Feel free to introduce your point of view.