SEX with too many women!

Zipper

Zipper

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After losing my virginity at the hage of 25, I, at the age of 27 have now had sex with four women. Three of these women have been within the past 3 months. I am getting very tired of this number rising. :(

I do not want to behave in a promiscuous or loose way. I wish to be chaste and responsible -- morally upright. But I have a hard time resisting a woman when she asks me to have sex with her. I wish to have a loyal, faithful, and committed relationship. I don't want to break up with a girl after having sex with her. :(

I don't want to get HPV or any other diseases. I don't want to get anyone preggers. I don't want to feel empty after having sex with them without loyalty and deep feelings. :(

This morning I got dumped by my most recent girfriend, and when we had sex, I thought she really cherished and cared for me. Now, she says she doesn't. :(

I don't want to have any more sex! How can I avoid sex in the future? What advice do you have for me? I need some help. Does anyone else feel this way?
 
samana

samana

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Zipper- I think you might be looking at a few things in a confused fashion. First, thats not quite often I've heard the situation sorta backwards like this....you wanting meaningful sex, and the girls just wanting to jump in (most guys would die to have this situation)...but perhaps you are getting too rushed at finding meaningful sex...you know? Looking to hard, too fast? Because meaningful sex comes with a meaningful relationship... which usually takes some time. So if that is what you are looking for, time is your best friend. Also, if that is what you really want, then don't put any meaning into sex if there is no substantial deep relationship- it is just sex to you, and to the girl, probably nothing more- afterall we are all just human and sometimes its just that way. So obviously, no matter how much guys may want to resist, due to religious beliefs, personal beliefs, etc, its just a natural thing, and not something to beat yourself up about, especially since you obviously have good intentions behind it all... so just try to give it some more time and develop a deeper relationship, then it will be more meaningful, if that is what you want :).
 
MarCPatt

MarCPatt

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It seems to me that you have good intentions. Don't beat yourself for falling. Just get up and move on and don't forget condoms. Sex is natural and difficult to resist, specially after a long time of going without. All you can do is to keep looking for the right person for you and to be easy on yourself when you end up sleeping with the wrong ones. You are not in a steady relationship, nor are married, so don't worry about the messing up part too much. Do be very careful and use protection.

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Si

Si

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Zipper said:
After losing my virginity at the hage of 25, I, at the age of 27 have now had sex with four women. Three of these women have been within the past 3 months. I am getting very tired of this number rising. :(

I do not want to behave in a promiscuous or loose way. I wish to be chaste and responsible -- morally upright. But I have a hard time resisting a woman when she asks me to have sex with her. I wish to have a loyal, faithful, and committed relationship. I don't want to break up with a girl after having sex with her. :(

I don't want to get HPV or any other diseases. I don't want to get anyone preggers. I don't want to feel empty after having sex with them without loyalty and deep feelings. :(

This morning I got dumped by my most recent girfriend, and when we had sex, I thought she really cherished and cared for me. Now, she says she doesn't. :(

I don't want to have any more sex! How can I avoid sex in the future? What advice do you have for me? I need some help. Does anyone else feel this way?
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How do you avoid sex ? By keeping your pants on :lol: Sorry couldn't resist
 
cocobeware

cocobeware

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I get it .....your'e pretending to be this sensitive guy who just wants to have a deep and meaningfull relationship so you can get laid even more :wink: .......................right???......... I like youre style.

Just kidding man,I wouldn't worry about it to much put it down to experience and move on coz you can change the past now anyway....
 
Zipper

Zipper

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Thanks for all the advice guys -- I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home, so now that I've lost my virginity pre-maritally, I now feel like a half-eaten cookie. Sooo, it's good to hear things that would help me put things in perspective.

The things that really bother me is that

1. Girl 1 had been quite promiscuous prior to me, and had a pap smear that turned up "suspicious" cells, indicating that she most likely had some form of Human Papilloma Virus (HPV). We did not use condoms.

2. Girl 2 was/is a stripper. We had sex only once and used a condom. It was basically a 1 night stand. She promised me she had nothing and had never had sex for money.
 
Emma

Emma

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Jesus, you knew she had a virus and you still did that? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with that disease? What were you doing hanging around little miss sandy sandpaper? for your own sake, say no and tell them you don't wish to be with someone who's been around the block several times
 
romeno82

romeno82

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if you tell me how to have sex im gonna tell you how dont have sex 8O


celibacy doesnt work for me
 
Y

yay

Well-known member
don't mean to be mean. but this is hella stupid.
you are on your own control. You don't need to brag, gees. How hard is it to keep your **** in your pants, you sure are one horney toad. lol
Have considered looking for a mate that's not been sexually active? maybe that will help you...
 
Oli025

Oli025

Well-known member
man....

wish i had your problem!

can i have it?

lol

sorry man i know youreserious but from my point of view i
cant see it the same way.
 
SqueakyGibson

SqueakyGibson

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I can imagine if you lose your virginity late, you can have very confused feelings about sex. I'm 27 and still a virgin, and the only time I got to do anything with a female friend, I got very confused feelings afterwards. If I were "normal" I'd have been able to enjoy what we did as friends fooling around. However, since it was the first time I EVER GOT TO TOUCH A WOMAN, it felt profoundly intimate and I immediately wanted to be her boyfriend. It screwed up the friendship very quickly.

What I'm saying is: I think if you lose your virginity around the regular teenage time, you learn how to deal with the difference between FUN and INTIMACY in good time. You can have casual sex if you think it's fun, and you can have an intimate relationship if that's what you want. But for people like me it's tough. I'm still that 11 year old boy who wants to marry the first girl he kisses... still the kid who obsesses over what his first time will be like. Yet, I'm a 27 year old, and the adult woman I eventually have sex with will expect me to have the emotions of an adult.
 
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