Seriously, I have no idea what i'm doing or my mind operates

[da_illest101]

So there is this girl in my program that i was interested in and she was interested in me too. We spend most of the classes together and with other friend as well. So then summer came and we told each other we were interested in each other. She wants a relationship i simply want physical. She doesn't mind the physical part at all.

So school started this week we have 1 class together and spend a few time alone but i'm unable to show any interest in her at all, I was talking a lot more with my other friends then her. I simply feel like I was to tense to be interested.

Today we talk on facebook and she ask me if something was wrong and I told her it's because we are at school, too many things going on, no privacy, so I can't focus my mind on the things we talk online. Basically just making up excuses.

It seems like I only show my interest online but face to face it just died. It's not like i'm stressed around her or anything , or maybe I am, but I don't seem to realize it. Another problem we have is that she can't go out, because her family is super strict, so outside of school it's impossible to do anything and we are not gonna do anything at school either.

Anyone has advice for this type of situation?

 

[Blabla..]

I think you are stressed and don't realize it , you are not comfortable/yourself , maybe ?

You need to loosen up , be yourself without fearing , things might get interesting .

Or maybe you simply have no interest in this person ?

 

[TucanSam]

Try getting some alone time with her, to see how you feel without distraction. If you cant go out, maybe visit her at her house? Its more private than a school, and her famly will probably let you two be mostly alone (within reason, seeing as they are strict)

 

[da_illest101]

I think you are stressed and don't realize it , you are not comfortable/yourself , maybe ?

You need to loosen up , be yourself without fearing , things might get interesting .

Or maybe you simply have no interest in this person ?

yea i think you are right, i'm trying to do it too fast that i'm not even thinking straight anymore, i should let things go on their own. Maybe my interest for her is only online too, at school I talk to her but i have other people that i talk alot more with

 

[da_illest101]

Try getting some alone time with her, to see how you feel without distraction. If you cant go out, maybe visit her at her house? Its more private than a school, and her famly will probably let you two be mostly alone (within reason, seeing as they are strict)

her mom doesn't even want her to a male friends. the chance of me going to her house aren't very high. She could come to mine any time she wants but her parents again

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

her mom doesn't even want her to a male friends. the chance of me going to her house aren't very high. She could come to mine any time she wants but her parents again

...how old is this girl; and her parents are controlling her that much?
That's... sad. Very, sad.

How about lunch meetings or library meetings?
Granted... people will probably be around but it would be very casual if you're in the same program and just ask her to hang out afterwards.
AND - if you go to the library, there's always passing notes as a substitute to talking and that's still a step up from talking on fb.

I guess I haven't been in this type of situation, so I'm not sure what would work.