saying "i love you"

HHvictim

HHvictim

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ok so.. i have had this weighting on my mind everyday for the last two year..

my boyfriend and i started our relationship in an nontraditional way we were more friends with benefits for the first 8 months then slowly we couldnt stop seeing one another and more feeling developed into a very normal loving fun and healthy relationship.

it'll be 4 year april 2nd of this year and i still can't say "i love you" as freely as i want. Let me step back and let you know that "i love you" is a hard word for me with my mother as well. My mother and i have a wonderful relationship its just those words don't cross between us more than once a year if that. now when it needs to be said between my mom and i it is said, but with my boyfriend i find myself wanting to tell him "i love you" before bed but i don't.. it just doesn't come out. and when i leave on sunday nights to go home after a long weekend with him i want to tell him i just don't.. i think about it, i just cant say it.

now just to let you know we've said it before a few times.. it's just not common verbiage for us. he says "i love you" to his family regularly and we both seem to stumble or choke when it comes to each other. honestly i'm not sure if he feels the same way.. i'm pretty sure he thinks it just makes me uncomfortable..

what should i think about this?? what should i do about this??
my previous relationship i never had this issue just to put that out there.

what do you guys think??
 
Psychedelicious

Psychedelicious

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Some people just don't say it, even though they may feel the same as peopel who do. No one has ever once told me those words, and I don't expect anyone ever will. I obviously haven't told anyone that either. For some reason it's just a real difficult thing to say.
 
Hoth

Hoth

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If you can't say it, show it. My parents rarely say it, and they've been happily married 37 years.

Personally, I can't even write "love" on gift tags or when signing letters, or accept hugs from family. That's an unhealthy extreme, but if it's merely rare for you that's ok -- just save it for special moments.
 
cawny

cawny

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When my parents say "I love you" to me, I can never say it back. I have a very good relationship with my parents, but I can never say it to them, even though they say it almost everytime to me.

For some reason, I can type it easily to strangers on the internet. Maybe I have to stop masturbating and watching too much porn. Probably scarred me for life, I can't look at girls without thinking about them being naked or doing sexually related activities. It's also probably why I can't talk to most of them or look at them when they're around.
 
HHvictim

HHvictim

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whats your age cawny, if i may ask. the masturbating and watching porn is normal to a certain extend. don't feel embarrassed about it.
 
cawny

cawny

Member
I'm 21, but I still do it very often. Sometimes I can resist, but I constantly have the urge.
 
HHvictim

HHvictim

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i went in for light surgery yesterday and i had my mother take me because i needed to be driven home afterwards and i wanted so badly to tell her "just in case i die, i love you" but it never happen.

my worry isn't about my parents.. it's about boyfriend that i AM in love with.. just need help with losing up with those three little words.
 
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