miguy
Member
whatever the condition, social phobia, anxiety or avoidance personality...not being able or the natural desire to socialize is just detrimental in so many ways and in variety of levels, at least it is for me.
seems like the lack of or inability to socialize in a natural way and have that desire, has affected my overall development and learning...everything from social stuff to having a good and high-level of education...but it doesn't stop there; since so much of our individual success comes from our ability to get along with and relate to others on some basic human and interpersonal level, i have never been able to do that, or had the intuitive way to do that. which caused me to underachieve in every aspect of my life...that's what i have hard time with...is that inability to experience all that life has to offer and give; if one is social and able to, has the natural ability and desire to want to be around others and enjoy the interpersonal aspects of socializing, they're considered successful and are capable of possibly achieving way beyond their natural, god-given abilities. unfortunately for me, that will never come and i will never experience much of what i want most, which is to have social abilities that could open up doors in personal, professional and academic life...and i will never get beyond my way of being and having underachieved in every category of my life...i guess that's the price i'm paying for not being sociable or having natural social abilities.
i only wish i could see how my life would be different if i was born very social, or at least helped with early intervention and was raised to be so. i guess i will never know, at least not in this lifetime...maybe next...
feel free to share your story or thougths....it always helps not being alone with a problem or in a situation that's so hopeless...
seems like the lack of or inability to socialize in a natural way and have that desire, has affected my overall development and learning...everything from social stuff to having a good and high-level of education...but it doesn't stop there; since so much of our individual success comes from our ability to get along with and relate to others on some basic human and interpersonal level, i have never been able to do that, or had the intuitive way to do that. which caused me to underachieve in every aspect of my life...that's what i have hard time with...is that inability to experience all that life has to offer and give; if one is social and able to, has the natural ability and desire to want to be around others and enjoy the interpersonal aspects of socializing, they're considered successful and are capable of possibly achieving way beyond their natural, god-given abilities. unfortunately for me, that will never come and i will never experience much of what i want most, which is to have social abilities that could open up doors in personal, professional and academic life...and i will never get beyond my way of being and having underachieved in every category of my life...i guess that's the price i'm paying for not being sociable or having natural social abilities.
i only wish i could see how my life would be different if i was born very social, or at least helped with early intervention and was raised to be so. i guess i will never know, at least not in this lifetime...maybe next...
feel free to share your story or thougths....it always helps not being alone with a problem or in a situation that's so hopeless...
