SA -boy vs. girls

[pinkputter]

OKKKK SO I have come to the conclusion Social Anxiety is totally different with Guys versus Girls!!!!!

True I think so! But Share what yall think...


I used to this SA was extreme shyness so I was like ok guys are shy, girls are shy... there can be both ... but yeah I think now it might be different. NOT quite sure about what guys deal with compared to us skanky skank girls ... but ya know who knows!!! Anywayssss....thoughts?

 

[Shonen_Yo]

It's mainly tough for us guys because we live in a world of competition. We seem to fade away into the background if we're not at the forefront of the battle.

 

[pinkputter]

watch the movie mean girls ...... shows girls in the finest of lights ... ha hopefully not

 

[SocialRetahd]

This topic has been covered many times. It's a lot harder for guys. They have to compete and it's not socially acceptable for a guy to be shy, blah blah blah. We're running in circles on this site.

 

[pinkputter]

social retahd: YES i know.............. if we really wanna think about it, im sure every topic on this site has been covered so many times ... yet we manage to find people who still need to understand these topics.
Maybe we need to run around in circles even more.
Love everyone, but if theres some brat be a jerk if you have to if you know what i mean....


Roxy: YEAH!! This poor girlfriend of mine I always thought she was soo cute... and she also copied me... we were cruel to each other. Realizing that to what seemed like forever.

 

[xkiss_me_nowx]

i think its harder for girls?
we have to deal with firstly, all the guys that come onto us sleazyly. then making friends in a female workplace is a nightmare, with girls being a hell of alot more bitchy, they notice alot more about you, they pick on the first thing they can about you!

with guys, they can make male friends abit more easy i think, with guys not being as bitchy and all and they just go wit the flow, i think its much easier imo.

 

[Yossarian]

Hmm, I'm not so sure this topic has been covered before. Assuming that is we are talking about how/if there is a difference rather than who has it worse. Which comes up all the bloody time. Victim chic for the loss.

I think the main differences have already been covered. Males seem to have a harder time finding a partner. Or at least that seems to be the most common concern among male posters here and on other boards. Females on the other hand seem to find it harder to make friends or at least they are more concerned/troubled about making friends.

Whether these differences are actual differences in how SP manifests itself or the result of SP mixing with normal gender differences I'm not sure. Probably the latter in my opinion. Which would mean the anxiety is the same, just it's focus is different.

 

[arjuna]

SA sucks for everyone. It doesn't matter if you are a boy or a girl. As people have already said here, if you are male it may be harder to deal with it, because men are usually expected to live up to a macho image. The only men that aren't expected to do this, in our western society in any case, are gays. Therefore, you have that if you are shy...you are gay. Ridiculous.

But as I said before, I think it is more or less the same, independently of your sex.

 

[Kinetik]

One of the biggest differences here is that men try to impress women, and women try to impress women. The old saying is true in my book - girls dress up for other girls. So that's the one point of contention in the female world. But on the flipside, men are indeed supposed to be strong, competent leaders, also in the dating scene. So it's hard for both genders, just in different ways. I mean, I'm sure most women know that they could go to a bar and regardless of how shitty they look, still pick up at least a handful of men provided they showed some interest. That's not the problem. The problem is that they're always scrutinizing one another and feeling pressures within their own social circles. Men on the other hand generally feel at ease with each other but often struggle to attract a mate.

The thing is that I often hear women say things like "oh I prefer being around guys, you aren't bitchy with each other" and that kind of thing. But I know men are generally pretty envious of how easy it is for women to find a partner. It's interesting because primally, a man's priority is to procreate and a woman's is to build a social network, and for some reason, life's made it tricky for either gender to do just that. I suppose it keeps the world interesting for both sexes, if nothing else.

 

[Dreamer_15]

oh come on people does it really matter? theres male AND female's that come on this site and we all have sp, some worse than others, some men have it worse than women, some women have it worse than men. its how it is. theres no need to debate on something like this its completely pointless and there will never be a correct answer.

 

[Moonie]

Recently I've been telling myself that SA sucks, but I think it would suck even more if I were a guy.

But, after reading KissMeNow and Kinetik's posts, I see that it does still suck for both male and females alike. I am back to thinking it is just as hard for both sexes.

It seems to ring true to me about what others are saying. It is fairly easy for me to find a mate.. But for the life of me, I can not make a friend/s.