RSVP-ing

lilmutegirl

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The main reason I started this thread is to vent about people not RSVP-ing. It may sound stupid, but it causes a lot of anxiety for me. I'm having a party for my son, who is turning 5 on Saturday. I emailed invitations and invited people via facebook. I only mailed 3 invites (because I didn't have emails for them).
I invited 101 people (I always over-invite, because I know some people won't make it. Thus far, only 15 (including myself and my son) have confirmed they are going (or might come). I am worried that his party will be devastating to him (or, more likely, me). I usually had very few people when I had parties as a kid, and was shocked if people even remembered my birthday. I go out of my way to remember other people's and at least acknowledge them, because I know how crappy it feels to not have anyone seem to notice that you were born.
The triplets in my son's class are having their birthday party on my son's birthday, but at a different time. He will miss theirs because he's coming from out of town that day (going on vacation with grandparents for a few days). I understand people have other things going on, but is it too much to ask that they let me know one way or the other??
Now I'm worried that people didn't get the invite, or didn't recognize my email address and just deleted it without reading it. I hate to ask if they got it though (hence, the anxiety).
Also, every month, the teacher sends home a calendar of events, including birthdays. Last year, his teacher wrote his birthday on the wrong day, and this year, it was left off completely. I want my son's birthday to be special, and I'm worried that he's going to feel overlooked. I always thought his birthday was extra-special, because he was actually born on his due date. :) Most stuff in my life is pretty anti-climactic. I don't want him to feel the same way about fairly big events.
Thank you for reading my rant. ::(:
 

WeirdyMcGee

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Wow! Inviting 101 people! :eek:

I think that 15 rsvp's is plenty for a child's birthday.
Do you remember your birthdays when you were that young? I certainly don't-- and I don't think it would have mattered if I had a party, either.

It's really great that you're trying so hard and I understand your frustrations with people not responding-- then you worry if they didn't get the invitation; is there something wrong with your email; do they dislike you, maybe? < the things that go through my head.

I think that if he has a friend there-- and has you there as well; he won't even really be paying attention to everyone else; whether it be 15 people or 100.
You are a good parent for caring so much.
Once the day is over, I'm sure you'll look back on things and feel much better, though.
 

lilmutegirl

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Wow! Inviting 101 people! :eek:

I think that 15 rsvp's is plenty for a child's birthday.
Do you remember your birthdays when you were that young? I certainly don't-- and I don't think it would have mattered if I had a party, either.

It's really great that you're trying so hard and I understand your frustrations with people not responding-- then you worry if they didn't get the invitation; is there something wrong with your email; do they dislike you, maybe? < the things that go through my head.

I think that if he has a friend there-- and has you there as well; he won't even really be paying attention to everyone else; whether it be 15 people or 100.
You are a good parent for caring so much.
Once the day is over, I'm sure you'll look back on things and feel much better, though.

Thanks, Weirdy! I'm sure you're right.
Right now, it's stressing me out, but in the end, it'll be fine. I just hate the idea of hyping up his birthday if it's not going to be really great. He'll probably enjoy it no matter what, but I don't want to be so stressed that I ruin it.
 

Boby

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Wow! Inviting 101 people! :eek:

I think that 15 rsvp's is plenty for a child's birthday.
Do you remember your birthdays when you were that young? I certainly don't-- and I don't think it would have mattered if I had a party, either.

I agree with McGee 101 people is a lot,I think I've seen weedings with less invitation,15 people is ok.
Also it seems the only one who is stressed about all this is you but remember is your sons birthday not yours,is about how he feels not how you felt in your childhood.
And about people who don't respond,it pretty much means a "No",they are not coming.Most of the people don't wana respond because otherwise they will have to invent excuses of why they can't come.
 

lilmutegirl

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I agree with McGee 101 people is a lot,I think I've seen weedings with less invitation,15 people is ok.
Also it seems the only one who is stressed about all this is you but remember is your sons birthday not yours,is about how he feels not how you felt in your childhood.
And about people who don't respond,it pretty much means a "No",they are not coming.Most of the people don't wana respond because otherwise they will have to invent excuses of why they can't come.

You're right. I am the only one who's stressed.
I assume that if someone doesn't respond, they are not coming, but it is irritating, since I payed for a venue expecting about 40 people to actually show up. Plus, if somebody isn't coming, they can simply say they have prior obligations. They don't need to go into detail.
Most of the people I invited are from my son's school, but some are family. I have only heard back from my parents, my brother, and my ex's parents. Most of the other relatives have gone to his previous birthdays and I think they RSVP'ed in a timely manner, so I'm a little confused, also.
 

Fighter86

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Do you have the contact of people you have invited? You can follow up with a call and ask them directly if they are coming. Tell them you need to plan seats, finalize food etc and they'll understand.

As for your son's teacher missing out his birthday on the monthly list you can write him/her an email to inform so they are aware and won't forget the next time hopefully.
 

lilmutegirl

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Update: The party was today, and we had a grand total of 20 people. My kid had a great time, and that's all that matters. I'm glad it's over. Next year, I'll prepare better.:)
 

Boby

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Update: The party was today, and we had a grand total of 20 people. My kid had a great time, and that's all that matters. I'm glad it's over. Next year, I'll prepare better.:)

I'm glad that all went great:D.
Why are you already thinking about next year,are you already getting stressed about it?You should instead think of how great the party was and feel good about it,chill out:cool:.
 
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