Ready to dump my one and only friend due to abandonment issues :(

tracey69

Member
We haven't been intimate in almost a week and a half. The norm is 1 or 2x a week. Recently, I got mad at him about a few things, one is him saying he'll call later in a few hours then doesn't. Then seeing a girl waiting for him at his place when I went there to pick up my stuff. He wasn't there. Since then, we haven't been hanging out as much.

When we are together, I feel like forcing him to talk and some of the stuff that he says I don't believe because it just doesn't add up. The weird thing is we are just friends with an occasional hookup. It sort of irks me that he carries a conversation with family and friends either in person or by texting/calling and sort of says a few things to me and that it. I barely say anything to anyone about anything. That's how I've always been.

I told him that I was afraid of him abandoning me. He says I will always be your friend. He's the only friend I have. I have an almost impossible time forming friendships and he was the first man for us to go out to do things together. That, he reminds me of a boy I was close to when I was in elementary school.
 

AsTimeBurns

Well-known member
Not sure what to suggest really, i'm not very good at giving advice. But what's the reason you think he's going to abandon you? Are you happy as things are now? Or do you wish you were only friends? Or more than friends?

Simplest thing to do perhaps would be to just talk to him about it.
 

Apersonalan

Well-known member
These things happen all the time you should just wait it through and something good will happen unless he's a real jerk or something but it doesn't really say. Having just one friend isn't a bad thing but it means you rely on them more and from their point of view they could want some space now and then but definitely not to leave for good. If he talks to others more maybe it just helps to focus on what his friends do with him and just try to get any sort of interesting dialogue going rather than just thinking things could be, I should know thoughts don't change a thing because they're relying on it.
 
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