Reading body language

[Rise Against]

For some reason i just cant read body language or recognize when girls are flirting with me until i think about and analyze the whole conversation in my head afterwords. This drives me crazy because i can think of at least 10 missed opportunities to get dates in the last few months but i was totally clueless that the girls were hitting on me at the time. Maybe I cant read language because I have ADD really bad and don't pay attention to detail, or because im to self conscious to realize whats going on. Does anyone else have this problem?

 

[Lea]

What you describe is typical for Asperger syndrome. So first thing I would suggest is finding a specialist and get diagnosed. But remember, it has to be a specialist, with years of practice. Not just GP, psychiatrist etc. They might tell you you don´t have it but don´t pay attention to them.

 

[Rise Against]

What you describe is typical for Asperger syndrome. So first thing I would suggest is finding a specialist and get diagnosed. But remember, it has to be a specialist, with years of practice. Not just GP, psychiatrist etc. They might tell you you don´t have it but don´t pay attention to them.

Wow, i think i might have that... the next time i go to my psychologist ill ask him about it.

 

[Jay Cataldo]

Why don't you just automatically assume that every girl wants you and act accordingly? You'll find out real fast if they're not into you.

And I doubt you have Aspergers. Most guys are clueless when it comes to the signals women give off. Its totally normal to miss the signs, especially if you haven't been well socialized. Also, if you believe that women don't find you attractive, your brain will prevent you from seeing the signals (even when they're plain as day) because it's so outside your realm of possibility. Again, just assume that if a girl is talking to you and being friendly, she's attracted on some level. This mindset will save you a lot of headaches.

 

[Ubersonic]

...if you believe that women don't find you attractive, your brain will prevent you from seeing the signals (even when they're plain as day) because it's so outside your realm of possibility.

Interesting...

/strokes invisible beard

 

[lyricalliaisons]

For some reason i just cant read body language or recognize when girls are flirting with me until i think about and analyze the whole conversation in my head afterwords. This drives me crazy because i can think of at least 10 missed opportunities to get dates in the last few months but i was totally clueless that the girls were hitting on me at the time. Maybe I cant read language because I have ADD really bad and don't pay attention to detail, or because im to self conscious to realize whats going on. Does anyone else have this problem?

I'm the same way. I never know someone's going to ask me out until they do. It seems as if it just comes out of nowhere & I'm shocked. I'll think the person's just trying to talk to me, then all of a sudden they'll ask me out or say something akin to it that I'm not expecting. As if they think I'm flirting with them which I'm definitely not, just because I'm (sort-of) answering their questions. I don't even know how to flirt & if I did I would be too scared to do it anyway, among other reasons.

It's gotten to the point that I'm almost paranoid when a guy starts talking to me (more than just the normal fear I experience when people talk to me) because I never know whether he's just talking to me or whether he's flirting & thinks I'm flirting back.

As for Asperger's Syndrome.... well, that is one sign of Asperger's.. I'm actually 98% certain I have it, myself. But that alone doesn't mean you have it, as there are many other criteria a person would have to meet.