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I'm talking to a girlfriend, I'm not that scared, I do have the SA thoughts when I'm talking to her, that I have to say something cool, but not that much, and I still can't say anything.. I have no thoughts, well normal ones, not even when I'm alone.... does this happen to u guys?? I have a feeling like a chip is missing in my head, and it isn't micro... :p and the people I'm with everyday... nothing.. no small talk, funny things, I use to make outta a conversation, and please don't say it's because I'm with them everyday.. stuff in school happens everyday and people comment.. I have no comments, nor anything... I came to the conclusion that I want to be like other people and have their thoughts, but I have to have my own thoughts...Is it possible that I don't??? the only explanation is that I concentrate on other peoples' thoughts and don't have a "myself" so how do u get a myself??? do u guys have a "your self" when r alone...
 
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releaseme

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it sounds like an identity crisis. i remember the same thing back in school. i never felt my own thoughts were good enough, let alone to be said aloud. now, all these years later, not knowing what to say, or think, is a stage (to a degree). and it's ok to feel "blank" some days. the best thing you can do? is just be yourself, even if thats not having any thoughts that correlate with others around you, or having anything to say. when it comes to your girl? again, just be you. granted, some things are better left unsaid but being you is the most important thing you can be. dont worry about what others think of you. they dont live inside your head and they have no clue what you think, or dont think. unless you have really close friends, the chances of any of them remaining friends once you get out of school, are slim to none...just be yourself...even if they dont understand where your head is.

for some people, picking up a book is hard to do. others, its not. sometimes finding a book to read can fill those blank days when you're alone.
 
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chained said:
I'm talking to a girlfriend, I'm not that scared, I do have the SA thoughts when I'm talking to her, that I have to say something cool, but not that much, and I still can't say anything.. I have no thoughts, well normal ones, not even when I'm alone.... does this happen to u guys?? I have a feeling like a chip is missing in my head, and it isn't micro... :p and the people I'm with everyday... nothing.. no small talk, funny things, I use to make outta a conversation, and please don't say it's because I'm with them everyday.. stuff in school happens everyday and people comment.. I have no comments, nor anything... I came to the conclusion that I want to be like other people and have their thoughts, but I have to have my own thoughts...Is it possible that I don't??? the only explanation is that I concentrate on other peoples' thoughts and don't have a "myself" so how do u get a myself??? do u guys have a "your self" when r alone...
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You probably have intrusive thought disorder for one, which is making an underlying insecurity into a living hell. Slow down, relax. Your thoughts are not yours right now because you are mentally ill (not crazy!). You need to work on the cognitive root of your social phobia and start new behaviors. In particular, you must stop focusing on these intrusive thoughts. Distract yourself by starting at your surroundings. As you do this, your intrusive thought disorder will weaken and your normal thoughts will surface more frequently until the problem has stopped. It could take weeks or months, so be prepared not to see immediate results.
 
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Phobologist said:
You probably have intrusive thought disorder for one, which is making an underlying insecurity into a living hell. Slow down, relax. Your thoughts are not yours right now because you are mentally ill (not crazy!). You need to work on the cognitive root of your social phobia and start new behaviors. In particular, you must stop focusing on these intrusive thoughts. Distract yourself by starting at your surroundings. As you do this, your intrusive thought disorder will weaken and your normal thoughts will surface more frequently until the problem has stopped. It could take weeks or months, so be prepared not to see immediate results.
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thx and of course I know I can't have an immediate solution, but when u come in the situation u wish it so badly, it takes over u thx for the post...:)
 
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unison said:
i tell you with a birds eye view experience earlier this year - no audience = no performance. culinary cuisine preference menu is inside, you just maybe don't enjoy having the interest to order the acquired taste until the restaurant is clear 100%
it might read as nonsensical, it might not
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I think I got it:p
 
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Nack

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I think i have same issue. Cause i feel like that too. A big fight happens, people are chatting it up. I just sit there, looking blank.
 
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