Shyguest
Well-known member
Re: How should someone deal with this problem?
Hi,
I am so depressed about how this sa ruins our lives. The thing is, nobody would ever believe I even have the condition. I have almost been convinced by others that I don't have sa and that I'm simply overreacting to a case of shyness. Except, I'm sure that this is not shyness - I worry too much about people's reactions, I won't answer the telephone incase it's someone who will in some way make me feel inferior, I won't answer the door to people, I'll go and hide in the other room. I analyse every situation and it can get me really depressed. I only go out of the house when I have to and guess what - I have been to see so many psychologists that I have almost given up on changing my ways. I seem to need continual assurance that I'm accepted. I'm scared of someone being better than me and I'm very self-conscious and can't even stay in the same room as the people closest to me - apart from partner, who also has a go at me for acting so strange.
Do you know who I feel I can relate to these days? Please don't laugh.
I actually feel happier going to see the calves down on our farm. I can cuddle them and feel like I'm not so stressed. I have been in a relationship that is probably stale by now. His ex-wife has made my life unbearable, since he tends to see her point of view more than mine. I have no friends that I'm in contact with because I'm really afraid of being let down. I don't know what to think of humans anymore, I can't feel at ease with most people. However, at least I can interact with everyone here, please don't send any harsh replies.
I really have tried to get over this thing. I have also been out of a job for over 5 years, having left really good jobs where people thought I was allright in a normal situation. Except I could never feel at ease and eventually when my partner's ex-wife started threatening me it sort of led to me giving up my job and I haven't worked outside the house since.
Anyone want to add anything to this discussion?
Hi,
I am so depressed about how this sa ruins our lives. The thing is, nobody would ever believe I even have the condition. I have almost been convinced by others that I don't have sa and that I'm simply overreacting to a case of shyness. Except, I'm sure that this is not shyness - I worry too much about people's reactions, I won't answer the telephone incase it's someone who will in some way make me feel inferior, I won't answer the door to people, I'll go and hide in the other room. I analyse every situation and it can get me really depressed. I only go out of the house when I have to and guess what - I have been to see so many psychologists that I have almost given up on changing my ways. I seem to need continual assurance that I'm accepted. I'm scared of someone being better than me and I'm very self-conscious and can't even stay in the same room as the people closest to me - apart from partner, who also has a go at me for acting so strange.
Do you know who I feel I can relate to these days? Please don't laugh.
I actually feel happier going to see the calves down on our farm. I can cuddle them and feel like I'm not so stressed. I have been in a relationship that is probably stale by now. His ex-wife has made my life unbearable, since he tends to see her point of view more than mine. I have no friends that I'm in contact with because I'm really afraid of being let down. I don't know what to think of humans anymore, I can't feel at ease with most people. However, at least I can interact with everyone here, please don't send any harsh replies.
I really have tried to get over this thing. I have also been out of a job for over 5 years, having left really good jobs where people thought I was allright in a normal situation. Except I could never feel at ease and eventually when my partner's ex-wife started threatening me it sort of led to me giving up my job and I haven't worked outside the house since.
Anyone want to add anything to this discussion?