I can never seem to find a way to jump into group conversations- I keep waiting for a time when I won't be "interrupting" someone else, and the requisite pause never happens, or if it does, what I have to say is no longer relevant to the conversation. QUOTE]
This sums it up so well!
Typically, I make a couple of attempts early on to get a foothold in the conversation, than eventually just zone out & keep quiet!
I think it's just low dominance behaviour. Alot of the time I think most of us are just 'being polite' and letting others finish having their say. But it probably just comes across as not having anything to say.
I can never seem to find a way to jump into group conversations- I keep waiting for a time when I won't be "interrupting" someone else, and the requisite pause never happens, or if it does, what I have to say is no longer relevant to the conversation. QUOTE]
This sums it up so well!
Typically, I make a couple of attempts early on to get a foothold in the conversation, than eventually just zone out & keep quiet!
I think it's just low dominance behaviour. Alot of the time I think most of us are just 'being polite' and letting others finish having their say. But it probably just comes across as not having anything to say.
I can relate to this too. Like you're waiting for the right time to say something, and the right time comes and goes and you feel frustrated with yourself but really it was not your falt but some other loudmouth who couldn't keep his or her mouth zipped shut.
I especially hate it when I finally make a valid point and the 'information' I put into the conversation gets added onto someone elses opinion which they are then later congratulated on. It's just so out of order how people shout others down before they've even had the chance to speak. *jumpes up and down in frustration*