Professional help

[aj]

Hey. I think it's time I gave something else a try... some kind of professional help. Maybe there is something I need to get out, though I don't know of anything. Especially if you're in the UK, who do you go to, how much does it cost?

I joined these forums more than three years ago. I am being made redundant at work after two and a quarter years and I will be leaving with no friends. It's still not happened even though I'm closer than I would have been in the past and I've come of of myself a hell of a lot. That makes it worse - the better you get, the more you realise that you have further to go than you first thought. I have become so comfortable and so happy with the people there, if I can't make any friends there, then I won't be able to do it anywhere. I am sure that the people do not get much better, they've been that good. Well, my time will run out next Friday.

I don't know what it is, but deep down something is ****ed. I pick up bits, but I still feel like an alien - that's the best way to describe it. It is going to take too long and if things don't change then I'm going to miss my life. I go to work so that I can pay to live but I don't know why I want to live. I don't do anything and I don't get to have fun.

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[lurknomore]

I understand exactly how you feel. I've been at my current job for 10 years, and while I feel very comfortable with most of the people there, and I've come out of myself a lot same as you, I still haven't made any close friends there. I think that I'm inching closer and closer to being able to make friends, but how long does it have to take? 15 years? 20? Sometimes it just doesn't seem to be worth the effort.

I don't live in the UK, so I don't have any suggestions as to how or where to get help, or how much it would cost for you. I think I might seek some help once I have the money/insurance to cover it.

 

[aj]

It is so frustrating. Why can't I take it any further? If I meet up with any of them again it will be very rarely. So yet again the end result is the same. I don't want to do this forever, that's it really. I can't stand much more. You try and try and try and try and nothing much happens - how long can you keep going?