Problem with SA and going out all the time

[lilcharlie]

I've been a social recluse for good periods of my life due to one reason or another unemployment being really ill ETC sometimes it felt not so great but sometimes it felt comfortable. For a while now, I've been asked to go out- a lot. I have a hard time saying no, and I also sometimes have ADD symptoms where I can't stay put for too long so I'll end up going. Part of me doesn't want to go out all the time because it gets to be "too much" on me. The feeling where I can't wait to get back into my warm comfortable room and be away from everyone. In addition, it takes too much time and costs too much money to go out all the time. I have other interests I'd like to pursue but going out takes too much time. I know it's easier to just say no. Can anyone here relate? I'm interested in doing things I'm not big on sitting around and talking with people because I haven't a clue what to say most times and sometimes it can be an effort to carry on a conversation. I notice some people think I'm friendly/approachable (which I am) but then they're not really receptive to me anymore (after they get to know me), or they're more receptive to my (very outgoing) friend. I think I often put out a "don't get too close to me" vibe. Don't get me wrong I do like going out sometimes and some of the stuff to do is fun, but I always get that "suffocated feeling" that goes along with it. Sigh. I really wonder if this is all in my head or what. :?

 

[slimjim119]

I can relate to the fact that I am dying to go out sometimes. But on the other hand I'd be content just to stay home and avoid the socializing. I much prefer quiet places.

 

[sleepysparrow]

I feel I give people kind of a standoffish vibe, like I don't want to be there, which I don't, but i'm not trying to be rude, it's just the "run away" feeling I get when people want to "talk" to me. I don't get it, how do I know how to make conversation with "normal" people?....ahhhhhgg I hate myself.