please with having no friends.

[Lotrsfan]

Now i know that some of you will think i'm crazy but although i'm envious of other people and my sister when they have friends and go out with them... deep down i'm actually quite please that i don't have any friends coz it means that when they and if they plan something and i'm invited i don't have to feel so anxious and dread going along because of my SP. And it means i don't have to keep making up excuses not to go, and them forcing me.
Does anyone else who don't have any friends think this?

 

[crescent]

I don't quite get it. So when they are having something and you are invited, what will you do? Will you accept or not?
For me, I don't like it if suppose my bro and his wife has any occasion with their friends and I'm invited along, I will decline, but some of them knows me (and they don't know about my problem), so I will make up some excuses not to join, but it makes me feel bad...

 

[shipost]

When I had friends, I always used to hide when they knocked the door. They even climbed up on the roof searching through the windows to see if I was in. They always used to force me out but most the time I used to enjoy it once I was actually out, weird eh :lol:

 

[black_mamba]

Now i know that some of you will think i'm crazy but although i'm envious of other people and my sister when they have friends and go out with them... deep down i'm actually quite please that i don't have any friends coz it means that when they and if they plan something and i'm invited i don't have to feel so anxious and dread going along because of my SP. And it means i don't have to keep making up excuses not to go, and them forcing me.
Does anyone else who don't have any friends think this?

Yes, to an extent. I don't envy having friends when I see people doing things I'm not interested in, but maybe you just haven't met anyone who likes the same sort of activities you do?

 

[Lotrsfan]

crescent, It depends what the 'something' they have planned to do is. If it's friends i know well and they know of my problem and we are just going into town or i'm going round to one of them's house then yeah i probably would accept, but if they have planned to go out to a place to just hang out and they are inviting a huge group of people i don't know along then i'll probably say no and make up an excuse.[/b]

 

[renegade]

Hmmm...not having any friends diminish my reasons to keep going, so i'll say i can't agree with u there, sorry. Even if anxiety kicks in when attending a party or something, i will chose 2 go rather than make up an excuse or something.

I think it's better to be invited somewhere, in town, for eg, or at a friend's house, even if it's other ppl there, rather than 2 stay all day in your room and do....nothing.

Staying between 4 walls it's really depressing 4 me, it gives me suic..al ideas 2, thining about my whole situation and social life and shit.

 

[marki]

Now i know that some of you will think i'm crazy but although i'm envious of other people and my sister when they have friends and go out with them... deep down i'm actually quite please that i don't have any friends coz it means that when they and if they plan something and i'm invited i don't have to feel so anxious and dread going along because of my SP. And it means i don't have to keep making up excuses not to go, and them forcing me.
Does anyone else who don't have any friends think this?

I can understand what you mean. Sometimes I also don't like to hang out with friends, I'm not really comfortable around anyone. But like renegade said, being at home alone is very depressing. Hanging out with friends can be stressing but it's much better than doing nothing.

Maybe you should just try, even if you don't like it. and maybe after a while it will become less stressing.

 

[Lotrsfan]

I can understand what you mean. Sometimes I also don't like to hang out with friends, I'm not really comfortable around anyone. But like renegade said, being at home alone is very depressing. Hanging out with friends can be stressing but it's much better than doing nothing.

Maybe you should just try, even if you don't like it. and maybe after a while it will become less stressing.[/quote]

But problem is i can't try this because i don't have anyone to try with. [/i]

 

[Lotrsfan]

Now i know that some of you will think i'm crazy but although i'm envious of other people and my sister when they have friends and go out with them... deep down i'm actually quite please that i don't have any friends coz it means that when they and if they plan something and i'm invited i don't have to feel so anxious and dread going along because of my SP. And it means i don't have to keep making up excuses not to go, and them forcing me.
Does anyone else who don't have any friends think this?

I can understand what you mean. Sometimes I also don't like to hang out with friends, I'm not really comfortable around anyone. But like renegade said, being at home alone is very depressing. Hanging out with friends can be stressing but it's much better than doing nothing.

Maybe you should just try, even if you don't like it. and maybe after a while it will become less stressing.

But problem is i can't because i don't have any friends, and it's probably because of SP why i don't

 

[Steve_lambert]

i always say that friends are there to let you down...well all mine did. I think its sad that i have no friends but i do have a girlfriend. I hated hanging out with friends anyway, im sure they were talking about me but im sure you all thought the same with your friends,right?

 

[scatmantom]

in school this was exactly how i felt, now im much better tho. This still effects me around new people, but I can say with no doubt in my mind that going through difficult times with friends is better than stayin alone in a "bubble".

You need to expose your self to your fears, thats 1 of the best ways to over come them

 

[black_mamba]

But problem is i can't because i don't have any friends, and it's probably because of SP why i don't

I had no friends until I stopped obsessing over my lack of social life and started getting way more involved in my hobbies. That way, when I spoke to someone, there was at least a POSSIBILITY that we could share interests - when you find that connection between someone and happen to get along too: bam! You tend to stick together. If you meet someone you like and wish to be friends with but have nothing in common with, wouldn't it be difficult finding a reason to get together?

 

[Quixote]

I have practically no friends as well, and no I can't say I feel relieved at the thought of not having to turn down invitations. I would love to have invitations. I would love to have a group of friends taking the trouble to insist inviting me somewhere even when they see I am not willing to. It has never happened that I remember of.
Right now I only have acquaitances who may occasionally remember about me and decide to invite me to do something, and I think twice before losing what little social life I have by turning down invitations.

 

[Lethargy]

I'm always being invited somewhere.. I do sometimes.. Usually under the mask of beers or coffee. I need something else to be doing besides just sitting there and chatting and hanging out. But lately I've been declining so much I think everyones giving up on me. I can't wait to get off to school so I can be anonymous and start fresh. I feel everyone in my town is suspicious of my behavior and I wonder and worry about what they think and saying about me...

 

[Septor]

I wish I had people that would bug me about going some where and and wanted my attention but I never had that in my whole life.I geuss if you have had that oppertunity it not such a big deal.Been isolated and alone my whole life,even more so after I turn 18. Oh well something to work I guess.

 

[Lethargy]

Turning 18 eh... Well I'm already midway through 22 I feel like I'm missing out on so much in life. It feels like I'm running out of time and then I'll be 30 and lost my chance to really enjoy life.. So try to get out there man.. I still get my butt up every now and then and most times I don't regret doing so.. It's just that damn fear

 

[Chrysta]

Well I don't have any friends. I have a friend a love very much.. but she is half way across the country. Otherwise I started talking on the computer with an old friend and we decided to do something together and I cleaned up, showered and put make-up on, painted my toe nails and crap.. and she stood me up. So the reason I feel it's almost better to not have friends is because it's too much work for people who most of the time aren't even worth a second glance. That was one of my biggest problems. I had two "friends" that I had had for years. They sucked as friends and they didn't support me let alone call me. Yet I clung to them because I didn't have anything else. Looking back on it I know that I shouldn't have clung to what I had left of a friendship with either one of them becuase they weren't worth my time. If they can't bother to give a shit about me then I am not going to bother. So having someone to talk to when you need it it is good for me anything else just isn't worth it.

 

[longlivesolitude]

Well I don't have any friends. I have a friend a love very much.. but she is half way across the country. Otherwise I started talking on the computer with an old friend and we decided to do something together and I cleaned up, showered and put make-up on, painted my toe nails and crap.. and she stood me up. So the reason I feel it's almost better to not have friends is because it's too much work for people who most of the time aren't even worth a second glance. That was one of my biggest problems. I had two "friends" that I had had for years. They sucked as friends and they didn't support me let alone call me. Yet I clung to them because I didn't have anything else. Looking back on it I know that I shouldn't have clung to what I had left of a friendship with either one of them becuase they weren't worth my time. If they can't bother to give a shit about me then I am not going to bother. So having someone to talk to when you need it it is good for me anything else just isn't worth it.

I agree. Even though we may have difficulty with getting friends we shouldn't just accept being threated bad.

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

I understand what you're saying...I don't have any friends except my parents & my boyfriend. I used to want friends...I used to want friends pretty badly... but now I've gotten so used to not having them that I guess I just don't care anymore and I kinda feel like I'm better off not having any. People suck anyway, and I always end up getting screwed over by them in the end, so what's the point in trying?

 

[loneEAGLE]

:roll: its only annoying when you have so many friends you have to schedule like a doctor or something--ok i can see you at 5oclock friday is that good for you--if you have a few REALLY good friends thats all you need, quality not quantity.