People with SA - Ideal partner?

[QuietStranger]

I've been wondering for a while who my perfect partner would be.

I'm a guy, 16 years old. I hadn't really thought about a "perfect" partner til recently, because I'm too scared to really even attempt to get a girlfriend any more (I had them lining up when I was younger ).

I've decided my perfect partner would be:

Personality - Quiet (Not as quiet as me!), calm, funny, caring and sweet (lots of hugs!).

Looks - Dark hair, cute smile, nice eyes (Not too bothered about body..though a nice one of those I would consider a bonus)

Theres someone in my school that looks, and seems to be, perfect for me. She exactly matches the above description (Including the body bonus!). I can tell by looking at her she's quiet and caring etc - Just what I want! Of course, I'm too scared to talk to her. I haven't even said hello. I guess I might as well have a go some time when the time seems right and she's not busy.

Anyway - then I wondered, is this the type of person that all/most people with SA want? Would you also want someone quiet? Boys, would you go against the trend of being more attracted to blondes? Girls, would you go against the trend of being attracted to guys full of confidence? What would your perfect partner be like?

Hopefully a vaguely interesting discussion will follow..

 

[Emma]

I found my ideal partner, he was exactly what I was looking for, he didn't drink or smoke, he was neat and tidy without being a priss and he did a good job of pretending he cared about me But I wasn't ideal for him,he told me I had everything he was looking for, except for the fact that I had social problems and he could never truely love me because of that....that's not fair, I think if you really like someone you should be able to look past it

 

[crazyfairyx]

had everything he was looking for, except for the fact that I had social problems and he could never truely love me because of that....that's not fair, I think if you really like someone you should be able to look past it

You obviously weren't meant to be together then, if someone loves you they love you through the good and bad times, they don't put down conditions and stipulations on their love. You'll probably meet someone else and realise they are far better for you than your ex ever was.

I think ideal partners depend on the individual person, I don't think all sa-ers want the same kind of person. But I also think people generally end up with someone who doesn't fit their idea of a perfect partner. You get with who you click with and fall for, not someone who has all the qualities you have on your 'ideal partner' list.

I've been with my boyfriend for three years, he treats me very well, he loves me, I love him, I think he's cute and gorgeous and he makes me laugh. However, he isn't exactly the kind of person I saw myself with, but we love each other and we make a really good couple, so I couldn't ask for anything more.

 

[QuietStranger]

Sigh..

This girl I was talking about at my school..I've been around her quite a bit today (Still haven't spoken) and she seems the opposite of what I thought she was like..she seemed talkative and was surrounded by boys. I feel hopeless again now

Do quiet girls even exist?

Then again, I guess chatty isn't bad as long as shes still everything else I want. I'd probably feel even more uncomfortable talking to her now though I feel shes way out of my league.

 

[Diluted_Acid]

Lol i like your gf criteria, i think mine might be a little different though.

Personality: more talkative then me, not necessarily smart, but interested in controversial stuff, topics what ever. Very calm, touchy, lay back, commited.

Looks: dark brown, or black hair. Tanned, don't care bout eye colour, but nicely shaped, distinctive eyes would do it! Something goofy about her . . . . lol don't ask, but i love seein goofy aspects of a girl, say my ex, who had a really goofy grin lol. Build has never been much of an issue to me, but smaller, between slim to plump girls.

Geez, i feel like a prick now, i just had a need to express this, because i've never had the courage to tell even a friend about what i look for. Also about the criteria, i am honestly not greatly bothered about it, i would be happy to even just get close to a girl, and learn alot more about them. But i want to try learn from my mistake, and sort myself out before gettin very close with a girl.

 

[lia]

Girls, would you go against the trend of being attracted to guys full of confidence? What would your perfect partner be like?

I tend to find the guys that don't say much a lot more interesting than those that are louder or more outgoing. So I suppose I do go against the trend, as you put it.

And, yes, trust me, quiet girls do exist.

 

[QuietStranger]

"Quiet girls do exist"

Let me know if u find one :lol:

Finding it very hard to concentrate on anything now. This crush is driving me mad..even though shes not as I thought she was