DaaaBulls
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I know there have already been some threads on this issue, I haven't read through them but I just cannot describe my ill feelings towards my parents. I don't know what it is but I really dislike like them.
I went out to dinner tonight to talk about them co-signing for my student loan and I guess I wasn't talking enough and it turned into a fight like always. My parents tell me that they care about me but to me it's all talk, they don't act like they care, they just continually say they do. The past few years have been really bad between me and my parents, to the point where I had to move into my own apartment because there was so much tension in the house.
My Mom is one of those people who expects things to be a certain way. For example tonight she expected me to come to dinner and be talkative and polite and because I wasn't talkative it made her upset. She is so easy to upset and instead of her trying to truly care about me she only truly cares about the appearancce of our family. In her words she says that our family is not healthy and it's basicly my fault. She doesn't really care about the root problems but just that everything looks ok to the outside world, which is just bullshit if you ask me.
My Father was a strict and not very warm person when I was younger. He tries to persuade me that my recollection of my past is way off and that we had this great relationship when in reality we did not. He was supportive in ways but was always very closed and I really knew nothing about him and he never really tried to open up or talk to me when I was younger. Now he thinks that everything should be ok and that we should have this good relationship out of no where. I'm sorry but you cannot go 20 years of not caring to get to know someone and then all of a sudden act surprised when things aren't working out.
I am just so confused because I really do dislike the way my parents are even if they mean the best for me. I really rely on them still because I need them to co-sign for my loan but after tonight I feel like it would be wrong fro them to do so still and I'm sure they don't want to do it anymore, especially my mom who walked out of the dinner. I know that no parents are perfect but I mean how is this my fault? I never really felt like they ever tried to get to know me and they expect me to be happy and open around them and they get mad when I don't know how too.
Anyone else dealing with a similar situation, I'm sure there are some other people who are in the same boat as me.
I went out to dinner tonight to talk about them co-signing for my student loan and I guess I wasn't talking enough and it turned into a fight like always. My parents tell me that they care about me but to me it's all talk, they don't act like they care, they just continually say they do. The past few years have been really bad between me and my parents, to the point where I had to move into my own apartment because there was so much tension in the house.
My Mom is one of those people who expects things to be a certain way. For example tonight she expected me to come to dinner and be talkative and polite and because I wasn't talkative it made her upset. She is so easy to upset and instead of her trying to truly care about me she only truly cares about the appearancce of our family. In her words she says that our family is not healthy and it's basicly my fault. She doesn't really care about the root problems but just that everything looks ok to the outside world, which is just bullshit if you ask me.
My Father was a strict and not very warm person when I was younger. He tries to persuade me that my recollection of my past is way off and that we had this great relationship when in reality we did not. He was supportive in ways but was always very closed and I really knew nothing about him and he never really tried to open up or talk to me when I was younger. Now he thinks that everything should be ok and that we should have this good relationship out of no where. I'm sorry but you cannot go 20 years of not caring to get to know someone and then all of a sudden act surprised when things aren't working out.
I am just so confused because I really do dislike the way my parents are even if they mean the best for me. I really rely on them still because I need them to co-sign for my loan but after tonight I feel like it would be wrong fro them to do so still and I'm sure they don't want to do it anymore, especially my mom who walked out of the dinner. I know that no parents are perfect but I mean how is this my fault? I never really felt like they ever tried to get to know me and they expect me to be happy and open around them and they get mad when I don't know how too.
Anyone else dealing with a similar situation, I'm sure there are some other people who are in the same boat as me.