From my own experience and what I read about other people here, it seems like we believe we're always being judged negatively when people see certain perceived flaws.
But I am never dwelling on other people's flaws, I don't dwell on people's flaws and start doing a critical analysis of them. If someone makes a mistake or if I see someone has an imperfection in their appearance, I am not thinking negatively of them.
When I look at others looking at other people, they don't seem to be judging people negatively and critically. Yet I believe people are being critical of me because of past negative judgements I have received which made me believe people when they see my 'flaws' are being critical.
I just think this is huge in terms of overcoming the problems. It will make one anxious and self conscious and drain confidence if you are believing people are always judging you negatively, but evidence seems to suggest that people aren't judging, we've let some negative feedback believe that people are, but I am not so sure its true?
What do others think?
But I am never dwelling on other people's flaws, I don't dwell on people's flaws and start doing a critical analysis of them. If someone makes a mistake or if I see someone has an imperfection in their appearance, I am not thinking negatively of them.
When I look at others looking at other people, they don't seem to be judging people negatively and critically. Yet I believe people are being critical of me because of past negative judgements I have received which made me believe people when they see my 'flaws' are being critical.
I just think this is huge in terms of overcoming the problems. It will make one anxious and self conscious and drain confidence if you are believing people are always judging you negatively, but evidence seems to suggest that people aren't judging, we've let some negative feedback believe that people are, but I am not so sure its true?
What do others think?