Horatio
Well-known member
This post I owe to those of you who have followed some of my whinging posts over the last few months complaining about making a complete ass of myself in town at night.
Basically it seems that the only way people in my part of the world meet others their own age is either through mutual friends or by going out on the town to pubs and clubs. With a lack of friends it can be bloody difficult to meet others in the first place so Ive been actively trying at the second.
Walking into a busy pub or club by yourself is bloody difficult from someone with SP and most times Ive ended up drinking a lot of money by my lonely self and beating myself up about it until the next weekend.
Dont know what I did this time but ended up doing remarkably well for a large shy guy like myself who is used to being treated like crap.
After watching the All Blacks decimate the Lions team again I made my way to a club which was selling cheap spirits (yeah I know, great reason) BUT I ended up meeting with a guy from work there and three gorgeous girls who dragged me around with them for the night and even dragged me onto the dance floor 8O
For those of you with boyfriends/girlfriends your probably thinking yeah so whats the big deal? To put this in perspective... I dont think Ive even really talked to any girls my age for years and certainly havent danced with a girl since compulsary folk dancing lessons at age 12 and a latin dancing disaster when I was 17.
In fact this time last year I was bed ridden by my SP and depression, barely ever leaving my bed and living with my parents. Taking on full time work in another city hasnt been easy for me and neither has flatting with randoms and going out on the town at night has at times been excrutiatingly difficult but I don't regret it.
This week last year I was lying in bed bitching on the internet, this week I have been given a payrise and a new contract for fulltime work for the rest of the year and now have actually managed to go out on the town and have an enjoyable evening...AND I STILL get time to bitch on the internet from time to time
am of course a long way short of my long term goals, having a succesful career, meeting a beautiful girl and forming a loving life long relationship, getting over my socialphobia/depression and world domination. But I guess everything is one step at a time and Im just glad to be able to report that Ive managed to take one firm step forwards after spending several years on a downwards escalator
and as for going out on the town... I dont expect to have such good luck as this has been about my 20th attempt to have fun out on the town but its given me a bit of hope and I dont feel quite as hopeless as I have in the past
Kind Regards to you all
Horatio
P.S. I dont care if I get a hangover tomorrow
Basically it seems that the only way people in my part of the world meet others their own age is either through mutual friends or by going out on the town to pubs and clubs. With a lack of friends it can be bloody difficult to meet others in the first place so Ive been actively trying at the second.
Walking into a busy pub or club by yourself is bloody difficult from someone with SP and most times Ive ended up drinking a lot of money by my lonely self and beating myself up about it until the next weekend.
Dont know what I did this time but ended up doing remarkably well for a large shy guy like myself who is used to being treated like crap.
After watching the All Blacks decimate the Lions team again I made my way to a club which was selling cheap spirits (yeah I know, great reason) BUT I ended up meeting with a guy from work there and three gorgeous girls who dragged me around with them for the night and even dragged me onto the dance floor 8O
For those of you with boyfriends/girlfriends your probably thinking yeah so whats the big deal? To put this in perspective... I dont think Ive even really talked to any girls my age for years and certainly havent danced with a girl since compulsary folk dancing lessons at age 12 and a latin dancing disaster when I was 17.
In fact this time last year I was bed ridden by my SP and depression, barely ever leaving my bed and living with my parents. Taking on full time work in another city hasnt been easy for me and neither has flatting with randoms and going out on the town at night has at times been excrutiatingly difficult but I don't regret it.
This week last year I was lying in bed bitching on the internet, this week I have been given a payrise and a new contract for fulltime work for the rest of the year and now have actually managed to go out on the town and have an enjoyable evening...AND I STILL get time to bitch on the internet from time to time
am of course a long way short of my long term goals, having a succesful career, meeting a beautiful girl and forming a loving life long relationship, getting over my socialphobia/depression and world domination. But I guess everything is one step at a time and Im just glad to be able to report that Ive managed to take one firm step forwards after spending several years on a downwards escalator
and as for going out on the town... I dont expect to have such good luck as this has been about my 20th attempt to have fun out on the town but its given me a bit of hope and I dont feel quite as hopeless as I have in the past
Kind Regards to you all
Horatio
P.S. I dont care if I get a hangover tomorrow