Never being content

[Sacrament]

One of my major flaws is never being happy with what I already have. I mean, I have a supporting family, I have a handful of friends, I have the means to workout and be healthy and so forth, and yet I am never content with things as they are. I'm only happy when I am in a relationship, when I am in something deep with someone; it's the only way I see myself actually doing things for myself. Why can't I have a different thinking process, why can't I just tell myself "you have a roof, you have a loving family and the opportunities are all around you" instead of searching for something more, instead of 'relying' on someone else's feelings? I suppose it is because it's what I don't have (I actually do, but it's a complicated situation), or maybe what I need is to have that someone acknowledge the good things about you, loving you for who you are and so forth.

 

[Joey86]

I don't know about everybody else, but I think ackowledgement and approval from people is something that is an important factor for us with social phobia. Having that close person with you, especially in a relationship can i think provide that for us. Sometimes I think, "you can only be as happy as you let yourself be"... at other times, that can be the furthest thing from the truth, especially because other people's opionon of you is so important...

 

[Sacrament]

Exactly. Sometimes, I have this feeling like I can conquer the world, but it only lasts for a few seconds like an adrenaline rush and then it fades.

 

[maggie]

One of my major flaws is never being happy with what I already have. I mean, I have a supporting family, I have a handful of friends, I have the means to workout and be healthy and so forth, and yet I am never content with things as they are. I'm only happy when I am in a relationship, when I am in something deep with someone; it's the only way I see myself actually doing things for myself. Why can't I have a different thinking process, why can't I just tell myself "you have a roof, you have a loving family and the opportunities are all around you" instead of searching for something more, instead of 'relying' on someone else's feelings? I suppose it is because it's what I don't have (I actually do, but it's a complicated situation), or maybe what I need is to have that someone acknowledge the good things about you, loving you for who you are and so forth.

i'm kinda like that too Sacrament, like if i'm having a half decent day, i'm focusing on what i didn't accomplish, or what i should have done..or how shitty things are..when, in all actuality, things are ok, or better. And man, do i have a mental list, and mental energy sometimes, and have extremely high hopes of what i 'could' accomplish, and then..disappoint myself sometimes And i think when you say you're 'only happy when you're in a relationship' and 'it's the only way I see myself actually doing things for myself'..same for me. I think when you're with someone, there's someone else to accomplish stuff for, to motivate you..to become a better person for? something like that anyway :wink:

 

[Fighter86]

Currently I'm not contend with what I have now, maybe I'm just not contend because I expect so much more out of life. But you know something, maybe I DO have a reason not to be contend because everyone else seems to have so much more than I do. Like seriously. I'm way behind schedule compared to others, my parents can't seem to understand what my problem is(SA), well, I'm just a frustrated and bad tempered person. Ok, so this is all out of point, I'm sorry, but I'm having a really bad day here

 

[dottie]

I understand that feeling of never being satisfied with what you have now. It is eating me up right now, actually. I am so consumed by my problems, by feeling overwhelmed, by the future, that i cannot relax and be peaceful. Ever. Someone turn it off.