I am not sure if I have SA, at least not the official definition. All my life I've had basically no friends, I had two in high school, and (in college) I haven't had any relationships whatsoever for the last four years. I'm basically the biggest loser you'll never meet, though people tend to assume I'm exactly the opposite because I'm smart, attractive, and academically successful. I avoid social events of any kind zealously, but if this type of response is just a learned reaction to poor sociialization, does this count as SA? I was also wondering how people hear have been able to have close personal relationships with SA. How do you make friends, etc, when everyone expects you to be normal? People don't want other people as friends who have so much psychological baggage,. How do you enter relationships when you have none to begin with? Thanks for any comments.