need dating advice..

[enchantress24]

hey. maybe u guys have been through this. i've been dating this guy for about 5 months and everything is great and perfect..i couldn't have met a more perfect guy who likes me and treats me like a princess. but lately i've been feeling very paranoid and anxious...i have this terrible fear that he will just meet someone he likes more than me and he will just leave me. its been to the point where i get panic attacks, i cant sleep, i start crying when i start to imagine him leaving me. i dont think its an obsession but i get so paranoid everytime he's not with me. makes me so crazy!!!!

i suffer from clinical depression and general anxiety disorder so im not sure if this has to do with these feelings of paranoia. I know breakups hurt everyone but knowing that i already feel sad, just imagining this guy dumping me kills me. Are these feelings normal? i never really dated or ever liked anyone else the way i like this guy. im just so afraid.

 

[xSleepy]

I am the same way... I dont know if its normal either. It drives me pretty crazy though and having been like this for like a year is exhausting. Well I think these things might be normal to a certain extent, but if you continue to always think and feel this way it might end up hurting your realtionship and just driving you more crazy.

oh yeah and i dont know what you can do to help not think that way anymore... i still havent figured it out. I just distance myself, which has ruined my relationship.

 

[danstelter]

These feelings are collectively termed "insecurity," which is a tough place to be as you have noted. A good idea would be to tell your boyfriend that you are feeling insecure and that you need to know that he loves you, that you just need to hear it from his mouth. But, at the same time, be careful that you don't voice this too much, as too much talk about insecurity will scare him away. The symptoms you have described are pretty severe-panic attacks, loss of sleep, and crying just at the thought of him leaving you. It might not be a bad idea to talk to a counselor (very helpful for me with my anxiety) and see how a counselor can help you reduce this feeling of insecurity. When you move past more of your insecurity, you will notice that these panic attacks, crying, and loss of sleep episodes are fewer and farther between, and much less intense. And eventually, they might be gone entirely.

Females place a high priority on relationships and have a fear of being alone, much more so than males. Many women probably experience this level of fear like you, but you seem to experience this at an intense level, and it would make your life a lot better to have moved past some of it. Good luck with that, and please do seek help from another person; it really helps a ton. Ask me if you have any questions.

 

[Spfreezes]

hey. maybe u guys have been through this. i've been dating this guy for about 5 months and everything is great and perfect..i couldn't have met a more perfect guy who likes me and treats me like a princess. but lately i've been feeling very paranoid and anxious...i have this terrible fear that he will just meet someone he likes more than me and he will just leave me. its been to the point where i get panic attacks, i cant sleep, i start crying when i start to imagine him leaving me. i dont think its an obsession but i get so paranoid everytime he's not with me. makes me so crazy!!!!

i suffer from clinical depression and general anxiety disorder so im not sure if this has to do with these feelings of paranoia. I know breakups hurt everyone but knowing that i already feel sad, just imagining this guy dumping me kills me. Are these feelings normal? i never really dated or ever liked anyone else the way i like this guy. im just so afraid.

Actually I always look for these kind of girls that I'm sure about how much she loves me. I want to make certain if she thinks just what you think and that she never leaves me unless I leave her. For that reason I find unpopular and unpretentious girls so attractive more than popular and brilliant ones. Becouse I'm not self-sufficient and I want to guaranty everything.::