jessica41481
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my social anxiety started to go away once i really got to a point where i just got tired of being alone. i noticed my whole life that i always worried what people would think. and i would let their opinions affect my perception of myself. i think i had to come to a point and say that i know myself better then anyone else does. and instead of hiding, i try to be as honest as i can. and if im in a room feeling very uncomfortable, i will just talk to one person, and then sit alone. and i will go home and say, that was a success, becuase i accepted who i was and didnt care. i stopped beating myself up for not being able to be as social as i would wish to be. i think i started to get to know people, one person at a time.
start with one even if you start to sweat and are so uncomfortable, and be as honest as you can even if they think you are the biggest wierdo. i think the more you do it, the more easier it gets. i may not ever be socially out going, but there is nothing wrong with that. i think the healthiest people are the ones that have a balance. they also spend alot of time by themselves.
my only problem are these damn panic attacks. today i was able to really calm myself down. just sometimes i get wierd numbness in my arms. it almost feels like a dead arm. i tell myself that they arent real feelings. my doctor said that anxiety can cause a whole bunch of wierd crap. im actually a very healthy 26 year old woman. this cracks me up alot.
now back to my social anxiety. i come to a point where i will be comfortable with being the silent person in a group. and if they want to find out why im so wierd around peiople and silent, i will just tell them, i have anxiety. after a while i became very surprised with how understanding some people can be. when ever im in a place thats crowded and few people know me, they will just pat me on the back and say hi. and im ok with that.
i think at some point you just have to start somewhere. somewhere very small. doo something you havent done. i no longer sweat and stutter when i talk to people. sometimes i just smile too much becuase i think i sound like an ass. and slowly and slowly, its a slow proccess in my case, after a while people get to know me very slowly and are very surprised to see what im about.
so dont forget who you really are. the part of you that people rarely get to see. just start very small, and at some point over time, you will be amazed at what people think of you.
i mean i waited till i was 25 to start forcing myself, in ways that werent so hard to do. and i look back now just shocked. even in my first day of kindergarden, i was the girl who never spoke a word. lol and very few people got to know me in life.
my circle of friends may still be small, but i value them a lot. and i try not to shut people out, even the ones that make me beyond uncomfortable. i will force myself to stand there even if i want to run. and i will again, be honest. and then they really dont mind me being quiet or nervous at all.
anyhoo, im rambling, and my spelling sucks so thats bothering me. lol i hope this helps anyone.
i think my bigger goal over the next month is to be able to control my anxiety and panic attacks without these stupid pills, that i dont really think will do jack crap! i think i just worry too much. and its usually about other people. so i will try to stop worrying even if the shit hits the fan. there is a turning point in every crappy situation. i guess its easier said then done, but it can be done. have a good night to everyone who is not being social. you will all be fine. and so will I!!!!!!!
p.s. is it normal to have tightness in the chest throughout the day. even when im relaxing i can feel it. its sometimes on and off. does anyone have that too?
start with one even if you start to sweat and are so uncomfortable, and be as honest as you can even if they think you are the biggest wierdo. i think the more you do it, the more easier it gets. i may not ever be socially out going, but there is nothing wrong with that. i think the healthiest people are the ones that have a balance. they also spend alot of time by themselves.
my only problem are these damn panic attacks. today i was able to really calm myself down. just sometimes i get wierd numbness in my arms. it almost feels like a dead arm. i tell myself that they arent real feelings. my doctor said that anxiety can cause a whole bunch of wierd crap. im actually a very healthy 26 year old woman. this cracks me up alot.
now back to my social anxiety. i come to a point where i will be comfortable with being the silent person in a group. and if they want to find out why im so wierd around peiople and silent, i will just tell them, i have anxiety. after a while i became very surprised with how understanding some people can be. when ever im in a place thats crowded and few people know me, they will just pat me on the back and say hi. and im ok with that.
i think at some point you just have to start somewhere. somewhere very small. doo something you havent done. i no longer sweat and stutter when i talk to people. sometimes i just smile too much becuase i think i sound like an ass. and slowly and slowly, its a slow proccess in my case, after a while people get to know me very slowly and are very surprised to see what im about.
so dont forget who you really are. the part of you that people rarely get to see. just start very small, and at some point over time, you will be amazed at what people think of you.
i mean i waited till i was 25 to start forcing myself, in ways that werent so hard to do. and i look back now just shocked. even in my first day of kindergarden, i was the girl who never spoke a word. lol and very few people got to know me in life.
my circle of friends may still be small, but i value them a lot. and i try not to shut people out, even the ones that make me beyond uncomfortable. i will force myself to stand there even if i want to run. and i will again, be honest. and then they really dont mind me being quiet or nervous at all.
anyhoo, im rambling, and my spelling sucks so thats bothering me. lol i hope this helps anyone.
i think my bigger goal over the next month is to be able to control my anxiety and panic attacks without these stupid pills, that i dont really think will do jack crap! i think i just worry too much. and its usually about other people. so i will try to stop worrying even if the shit hits the fan. there is a turning point in every crappy situation. i guess its easier said then done, but it can be done. have a good night to everyone who is not being social. you will all be fine. and so will I!!!!!!!
p.s. is it normal to have tightness in the chest throughout the day. even when im relaxing i can feel it. its sometimes on and off. does anyone have that too?
