My Depressing Friendship Pattern...

Right here's the situation:

1. You meet these crazy outgoing people and click straight away.

2. They ask you to meet up with them again.

3. Ye see each other a lot after that.

4. Eventually, You become really close and have the time of your life - full sure ye'll remain friends forever.

5. You tell them EVERYTHING and now they know you inside out. You become really comfortable and super-confident around them. You havent a care in the world.

6. All of a sudden theyre acting bitchy, distant, or moody - whn you know you've done absolutely nothing wrong. Although you notice it, they assure you there's nothing wrong and say youre just being paranoid.

7. One day, just as you think things are starting to get better, and think maybe you were being paranoid, they explode completely - without warning. They start calling you every name under the sun - especially the ones they know hurt you the most. They harrass you for weeks and turn people against you. Some go out of their way to make your life a misery.

8. Now you're hating yourself, blaming yourself for everything thats happened. Feeling as if you'll never have another friend because you cant approach someone and don't wanna seem clingy or as if you fancy them when you just wanna be mates.
Your confidence is gone lower than ever before and you just wanna die. You want to patch things up secretly but its not gonna happen..

Either that or they just betray you and steal a guy from you.


Heres the reasons friendships have ended for me:

1. I'm too happy. (Eh!!)
2. I'm too depressed.
3. I'm too friendly. (These two gay guys decided to hate me because i made other gay friends and they didnt.)
4. I refused to get a girl chips. (I can't even stand on a street with a chipper/restaurant without feeling anxious)..
5. I'm too distant. (okay that was an ex who wanted to remain friends. He seemed to think i owed him every second of my time and didnt expect me to have other friends..)




Anyone else have chaotic friendship histories?
 
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Hellhound

Super Moderator
Your friendships have ended because those people have serious issues and they are jerks for doing those things to you. They never were your friends on the first place. You being too happy, too depressed, etc. has nothing to do with how they've acted. In fact, it's a good thing they turned away, you don't need such people around, they are nothing more but a pest.
 
You know I have the exact same problem.. and I hate it people say your too nice or to honest or to open and I think well this should be a good thing..

I find it hard not to try and have friends as I also want to laugh go to concerts and live life... I just want to feel as I can call a mate and say lets have a beer...

but thats never the case because of my SA... it's always one or the other...

I feel for you as I have the same issues !
 

nikki_marie

Active member
Hey it sounds like that the people you have been friends with are wankers! not you doing anything wrong if the reasons are as simple as that.
some advice.
beware of the people that wanna be your best friend after 5 minutes. its not normal. these people generally havnt got any friends and for good reason, real friendships take time, if someone is your best buddy in 5 mins it cant be because they know you and like you? how cud they in 5 mins, its just someone to hang around with till they get bored of ya, which sounds like the type of people you mention.
 
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