mouth wont move

[deleteduser]

i was just wondering if anyone else has this problem - when i get embarassed my mouth wont form a smile which makes the whole situation 10 times worse.
people think i am going to cry because im not laughing about it!

 

[Scottish_Player]

I have just found out recently that if i do mouth excerices like just simply opening my mouth as far as it will go and just massaging the area around my mouth for a about 20 secs help my face relax and feel normal.

I feel as if my face especialy my mouth area is always tense,so this does help me and just relaxes all the muscles in that area

 

[deleteduser]

thanx, ill try it!

 

[maggie]

hanny, i have that problem all the time, especially at work...it's like no matter how hard i try, i can't make my mouth do what i want 8O ..and lots of times i look like i'm gonna cry, and then they ask, "what's wrong?" i hate that :evil:

 

[deleteduser]

yeah i always look like im gonna cry!

 

[tupac]

happened to me before. its like my mouth wont do what my brain tells it to. but who knows, if it did open i would probably have said something stupid that didnt even make sense. which is even worse

 

[maggie]

that's funny tupac!! so many times, if i do talk, i jumble up the words in a sentence and it comes out all funny, and plus, i say it quietly and am always asked to repeat myself...cause noone can understand what i'm saying...then it's worse cause i am put on the spot and have to repeat my jumbled words louder than before...and it's not like i'm stupid, but i'm sure i appear to be :x

 

[lsgv]

I too have the same problem. I have difficulty in speaking clearly and loudly and sometimes i do not get any words. I know what i want to say but i cannot get the word out of my mouth if it is really difficult to pronounce. This makes me stutter due to anxiety and causes lot of embarassment, although i do not stutter when i am relaxed.

Also, i have a very feeble voice and sometimes when i talk, only air seems to come out of my mouth and no words!! This makes me even more anxious. The mouth seems tp be tense and my toungue always tied to the mouth..

Does any of you have similar symptoms? Did you do any thing for improving voice to make it more resonant. I found some books on improving voice and am thinking of working on voice exercises. Do you recommend any drugs for improving voice? thanks.

 

[deleteduser]

yes, i do have similar problems and also when i have to read aloud or do a speech my voice completely changes and it sounds like a different persons!
the weird thing is if i try to do an impression of what i sounded like it is impossible to do, do you know what i mean?

 

[lsgv]

My voice sounds soooo feeble when i leave a message on a voice mail. i just hate to listen that message. i don;t know if it is due to anxiety..but even when i am normal my voice is very very feeble with almost no strength..I always think if i can get a good voice, how all my anxiety is gone...Wish i have such a voice..i want to buy some Voice exercise books and see if that helps. I will let you know how it goes..

 

[AnnaMaria]

Yeah me too, especially at work. I can't form a smile than everyone notices. Than all of a sudden I get a sense that they'll are scurry off in their corner and comment on my wierd behaviour. I'm so used to it. But the thought of being perceived as a "shy, strange girl" bothers me because there's so much more to me but this SA is ruining me.

 

[Greenade]

Yeah i am the same..

In fact my whole face just goes so annoyingly straight...and if i try and force a smile then thats exactly what it feels like "forced"..

And then sometimes those horrible comments like "you look like you're gonna cry" "are you ok"....


Sometimes i seem to shake from the inside out too....like as if my insides are cold.....and then it feels like my whole jaw won't move and i feel as if my voice sounds so serious and forced too...

Adrian

 

[lsgv]

Did any one of you have a natural smile or a whole hearted laugh..I find it very difficult to smile naturally or laugh naturally. Most of my laughs are forced laughs that do not sustain for long..That puts me in a lot of stress..Gradually every one notices that something is wrong with me because my face shows kind of dissatisfaction or tiredness will all those fake laughs..

 

[sinbadthesailor]

Hi there...I'm new here...

I have the same problems with my face....my biggest problem is twitching. I get nervous when I have to talk to people who I think are important or somehow judging me...and my mouth starts to twitch. It's horrible and uncontrollable. I find the best thing to do is to not smile and to try to leave the muscles flat, but then that's weird too.

I also hate having to force laughs. A lot of the times people tell me things that are supposed to be funny, but I don't feel naturally inclined to laugh...and it's very tiresome to fake it, and I don't think people really fall for it...when I do actually laugh, however, I find that difficult to control as well, and I usually start shaking....ugh...I'm so messed up I know I should be happy with my life, but I just can't get over being afraid of talking to people...

 

[Danfalc]

I dont have the problem with smiling, i tend to smile too much i think because when i dont i get asked "whats wrong with you" so i guess i smile a lot so people think things are going okay for me.

But i relate to the fake laugh thing, i cant even muster a fake laugh these days, this might sound wierd but i think ive forgotten how to laugh
I cant cry either to be honest, i know guys get braught up not to cry, but im a sensative guy anyways and even more so with having sp.. but i just cant bring myself to do it, its like i dont have the emotion left in me to cry . GOD I WANT TO CRY!!!!!!!! :evil:

Sorry im a little better now ive got that rant out of the way :lol:

 

[Mysti]

My voice sounds soooo feeble when i leave a message on a voice mail. i just hate to listen that message. i don;t know if it is due to anxiety..but even when i am normal my voice is very very feeble with almost no strength..I always think if i can get a good voice, how all my anxiety is gone...Wish i have such a voice..i want to buy some Voice exercise books and see if that helps. I will let you know how it goes..

Hi this may sound like a very silly suggestion but have you tried singing? (humming and whistling are a good start too) I usually sing as it calms me down but it does depends how close your nearest neighbours are of how comfortable you may feel doing this. It really does strengthen ones voice and whole upper respiratory system infact. If this doesn't appeal my other suggestion is getting a microphone for your computer and using the windows (depending on your operating system) sound recorder to record yourself speaking - play it back and practice enunciating your words more clearly and loudly each time

I know it's one thing to practice on your own and completely different in a social situation but it may help when faced with using answering machines I hope this has helped a little, I just thought maybe it might be a slightly different and possibly fun approach.
I myself speak very quietly in the rare social situations I encounter - yet at home I am surprisingly enough overly loud - this could be due to my mum being partially deaf though

 

[despise]

i do all of that. fake laugh and smile, twitching, and forgetting how to laugh as well. i hate going to work (i sell tickets for little kids rides... :roll: ) sad job i know...but that’s ok cause it was my first job. anyway...little kids surrounding me - so if i dont look happy and playful i get mean parents commenting to me "life's not that bad is it?"...like you would know or care... "is it so hard to smile?"...well actually it is when you're trying to fake it!! "who died?"...dickheads...
i also, quite often, forget how to talk. an entire sentence is so mixed up i sound like i'm speaking another language! then i'll correct myself, but i'll be too quiet, so i'll repeat it a little louder, smile, try to hide and control my twitching mouth/eye. it's pretty funny when you think about it... just so embarrassing.

 

[Tim001]

I can't smile in public. This is one of my worst traits. I can't smile for photos or even around people when everyone else is laughing and smiling. I have looked at myself in the mirror and tried to practice, but it looks so freakish and unnatural that I simply don't smile and go around with this neutral look all day long. I think I am over-exaggerating things because of SA, and as such, I am treated differently because I don't laugh and smile when everyone else is. People will not always assume you are shy. They may also assume you are miserable, or stuck-up. This puts them on the defensive and before you know it, you are ignored and isolated for something you haven't done. Sigh...the life of a social phob

 

[maggie]

Tim001-i know what you mean...i can't force a smile or a laugh at work lots of times, and i can see my co-workers around me, looking at me and wondering why i'm not laughing...and the harder i try, probably the more miserable i look :x ...and i know lots of people think i'm a stuck-up snob cause of my expression, or because i don't make small talk..frustrates me :evil:

 

[Scottish_Player]

I I can't smile for photos (

On the rare ocasion where i have to get my photo taken i also cant smile,but what i do is think of something funny that happened and and just smile about it too myself,it kinda works for me but i still hate getting photos taken :roll: