Mimicry?

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I've noticed something that really bothers me and was wondering if anyone else with SA/SP has noticed it too.

I've had SP for about 1 1/2 years and I've noticed that since I seem to be incapable of relaxing around other people at work or anywhere that I do some pretty strange things when forced to interact directly with people. What really bothers me is that they will mimic or mirror my behavior. Sometimes I think they are doing it on purpose, but I don't think that's possible. Because it seems to be universal among all people.

Whatever I'm doing, they'll do the same. If I look away, they'll look away. If I hesitate before raising my eyes to someone, they'll do the same to me a minute later when entering the room I'm in. It's probably around 50 different things and the other person will mimic my behavior when I'm around. I find it very strange and disturbing because I don't want to feel uncomfortable and do the things that I'm doing, much less have "normal" people doing the same thing. I shouldn't be affecting anyone.

My best attempt at an explanation would be that people need to try to reach some level of common ground with another person in order to feel even a slight connection to them even in a working environment. With me that connection is not possible. But they try and they try making themselves look foolish in the process. It really is annoying to me, having my own ridiculous involuntary behavior mirrored to me by normal people.

Anyone else notice this?
 
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unison said:
i guess i can understand how it would feel uncomfortable. i dont think its intentional its just maybe natural to be influenced by the things around you that make you feel good maybe
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Really? Hmm maybe I'm the only one. It was the same when it very first started and when I tried to make eye contact as usual my eyes would kind of become weak and dart from side to side very fast. That was the beginning when my mask of confidence was beginning to crack. The person I was speaking to would do the same.

Their eyes would do the same.
 
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Jake123 said:
Well that's great and all but don't call me a troll just because you don't like me.
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I didn't call you a troll because I don't like you, I don't know you do I? I called you a troll because I read quite a few threads here in the day I was waiting for my account to be activated and I saw you posting comments not relating to the topic in other threads and now you pop up in my own doing the same thing.

To me that is a troll.
 
Jake123

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Liberty said:
I didn't call you a troll because I don't like you, I don't know you do I? I called you a troll because I read quite a few threads here in the day I was waiting for my account to be activated and I saw you posting comments not relating to the topic in other threads and now you pop up in my own doing the same thing.

To me that is a troll.
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You said they were mimicking you. Mimicking = imitation therefore it is related. I have no idea what you're talking about.
 
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reslo

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people do feed of other peoples energy
so yes, if you act confident and smile easy and act out going, it will put people at ease
if you are tense, it tends to make other people tense
if you are angry, it tends to put other people off
so yes i've noticed this.
it's really annoying when you get up and then every one else gets up.
no man is an island, and our moods and behaviors do affect other people.
but we can use this to our advantage - golden rule crap
and sometimes it's a self-conscious thing- like if im talking to someone, and they start to scratch their face- i get really paronoid and think that maybe they're trying to signal me that i have stuff on my face, so i may do the scratch the same spot really quick.

i've found that the more i look away from people the more they try to catch my eyes

they probably just want to know what you're looking at- it's a natural thing to do, and who knows may be you're copying them? ;)
 
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