Me, myself, and I

[Ren Koutaisou]

Hello.
I am obsessed with myself. All I think about is myself, what I look like, what I'm doing, why I'm doing what I'm doing, what I'll do later, why I'll do it later and not now, what I'll eat and why, which muscles of mine need work and why, what other people think of me or what they could think of me if I was a certain way, if I'm attractive to certain people, and stuff like that.

These type of thoughts circle around in my head nonstop every single day.

Sometimes I think I'm the best thing since sliced bread, but other times I feel like I'm just clueless about anything, which is actually more true.

A lot of times I have negative thoughts about my the family who I live with because in my opinion, they are all boring quitters who never try new things and shoot down my ideas. Unless I'm at work, I'm at home all day playing Pokemon ( which I do enjoy to an extent ) but now I get paranoid that playing video games is messing my eyes up. I am nearsighted.

My brother and sister are always watching TV or playing video games. Their vision is perfect, and I do believe I am jealous of that. My brother is a bad influence to me because he does nothing but play games nonstop as the globe turns. He does have a degree though, which is good.

There is no healthy competition in my house, and I feel sometimes like I need to blame them for everything, but I don't want to blame them, yet I just can't resist. I don't say anything to them though, just to myself, but not out loud. I just think to myself that they are boring and when I see them doing the same crap over and over again, it enforces my thoughts.

I have no friends really, and I understand why people wouldn't want to spend time around me right now.

What can I do to get my mind off of this? This hasn't been easy for me, but it has to be something outside of the house. I'm considering taking a second job, but sadly I talked my brother into going too, so if I get the job, he'll be there, but at least I'll be out the house more ...

I have introduced new hobbies into my house for myself, but I still get distracted by this.

 

[recluse]

I think my problem is also that i am obsessed about myself. We are so stuck in worrying about ourselves we can't enjoy life. I can't have fun because i spend the entire time worrying what i am going to say o'r how i appear to people.

 

[FOR REAL]

i can totally relate to this thread, ive also recently felt guilty though because im so wrapped up in myself that its easy for me to forget that other people i know have problems too.

 

[NothingElseMatters]

i can totally relate to this thread, ive also recently felt guilty though because im so wrapped up in myself that its easy for me to forget that other people i know have problems too.

I think my problem is also that i am obsessed about myself. We are so stuck in worrying about ourselves we can't enjoy life. I can't have fun because i spend the entire time worrying what i am going to say o'r how i appear to people.

Hello.
I am obsessed with myself. All I think about is myself, what I look like, what I'm doing, why I'm doing what I'm doing, what I'll do later, why I'll do it later and not now, what I'll eat and why, which muscles of mine need work and why, what other people think of me or what they could think of me if I was a certain way, if I'm attractive to certain people, and stuff like that.

i bieleve thinking about yourself is the most logic thing you can do since its you who have to live with your problems and you are the only one who can take care of yourself.And for other peoples problems there is nothing that can be done if you havent found a balance in facing your own problems.

I spend most of my time thinking about my self but i don't care.Because working on myself is gonna help me eventually help people around me who need me.If i decide to help someone now and i don't take the time to help my self then in the future there will be a moment when that person is gonna need me the most and because of my SA and depression i won't be able to help him.It's not wrong to think of yourself but spend that time doing something productive

 

[danstelter]

Some psychologists have said that anxiety is a form of narcissism, or excessive self-concern. I think this is sort of a negative way to look at things, but it's definitely true that we think of ourselves too much and I don't necessarily think that we are doing this because we want to.

What I learned about myself is that as I gained in self-esteem and found that I could do different things to a high level, I thought about myself and how I appeared to others less. When giving pointless presentations in crap I didn't care about early on in college, I had little to talk about and did a lot of the "uh, um" thing and felt much more anxious because I didn't have the experience necessary to talk in detail about things. Fast forward five years, and I can talk in great detail about my passions, which include NFL football, helping people, investing in the stock market, and exercise.

It sounds like you and I are alike, Ren, in that we have obsessive personalities. What I do is find other things to obsess about that are healthy. Pokemon is not a good thing to obsess about. Instead, obsess about ways you can do your job better, ways you can improve your life, learn new things, and make new friends. There are a million ways to do things and you can invent your own if you don't like the ways of others! But, of course you will need to learn to cut yourself off when necessary, as too much obsessing about anything can cause significant problems in your life.

Good luck, and don't get down on yourself if you don't change as quickly as you want; change like this can take several years to take place.