Making friends at university

[Rainbowstar]

Hi everyone,
I would like to know whether you think making friends at university is difficult.
I have been and still am a university student for five years and I have find it difficult to make friends at university. All my friends are from high school. At university, you meet people from your classes, clubs, friends and other sources. But with the way classes are timetabled, you often see or chat with these people a few times, and you don't see them again unless you are enrolled in the same unit the following semester. The best way to make friends is to see the same person(s) regularly to build a friendship. That's why it is easier to make friends at High School because you see the same people everyday, and hence there are more opportunities to develop a friendship. The university environment doesn't enable regular contact unless you're in a degree where everyone does the same subjects.
The advice I often get is join a club and society to meet people. Clubs and societies are a great way to meet people, however, sometimes the same problem occurs because once the semester is over there is little or no regular contact.
At the same time, making friends requires initiative and effort on our part too, so perhaps I'm complaining too much.
What do you think?

 

[hulkamaniak]

I think this should be moved to the "Social Anxiety Forum" section, just because more people would view it and im interested to know.

With me, my answers no. . i seemed to make friends at high school in a class of 30 . . but at uni . . a class of 200 and got nowere

 

[Rainbowstar]

With me, my answers no. . i seemed to make friends at high school in a class of 30 . . but at uni . . a class of 200 and got nowere

I've had similar experiences. It is easier to make friends in a class with smaller number of students. Even with the advantage of a smaller class size, the frequency of these classes is usually once (sometimes two times) a week for thirteen weeks and this makes regular contact difficult. Once these classes finish, new classes are formed the following semester.

I've posted the topic on the social phobia forum.

 

[lifes_to_long]

you should just be happy with the fact that you can go to uni let alone step foot in one..............think about that.

 

[Rainbowstar]

you should just be happy with the fact that you can go to uni let alone step foot in one..............think about that.

I am grateful I attended university. I've had some enlightening and enjoyable experiences. The point I'm making is that it can be challenging to find friends at university. I'm not criticizing the university as a whole.

 

[hulkamaniak]

you should just be happy with the fact that you can go to uni let alone step foot in one..............think about that.

Yer, but its hard to be happy when you quit uni due to not fitting in

 

[Diluted_Acid]

I graduated HS with no friends. IMO uni is better for me to make friends, because if you socially screw up or something, people get over it . . . . you meet new people all the time there who dont know you. Where as at HS, because i made a very poor attempt to make friends in year 7, this left me pretty alone until i graduated. People only knew me for the guy i really wasn't.