Claireabell
Active member
I need some advice
I met someone online a while ago and we became good friends. He also had SA although mild compared to myself. He is not from this site. He opened up and told me that he self harmed, suffered bad depression and drank rather a lot of Vodka until the point of passing out most nights. He was a lovely person, had a lot happen in his later years which was ongoing. I cared very much for him and loved our chats on MSN, it was heading towards us meeting up although we lived about a 2 hour drive away from each other. I started to open up to him which I don't find easy. I even question myself about scaring him off but I know that is not true. He then started to dissapear for days on end and I was so worried that he had OD because of how bad his depression was or because of his self harming. I tried to find out all that I could about this resulting in being there for him when he needed someone was the best thing I could do.
In the end he disappeared for a week, I found out that the self harming had gotten way out of control, he even carved his name on himself, his drinking was out of control, I felt he had reached breaking point. To cut a long story short I sent him an email saying that I could no longer deal with the pain that I was feeling. I felt so F@@@ing useless, it was hard seeing his pain and not being able to reach out to help him. I wasn't bitter, far from it. I will be there for anyone, always said no matter what and now I feel so bad because of what I have done.
I feel such a terrible person for what I did, I'm crying as I type this because I feel so down at the moment. I am not a bad person please don't think that I am, I am such a caring person in life.
Would you have done the same thing? How would you of dealt with this?
I have his mobile and home number and want to ring but god knows what will happened it I am told where to go. I just need to get this off my chest.
I met someone online a while ago and we became good friends. He also had SA although mild compared to myself. He is not from this site. He opened up and told me that he self harmed, suffered bad depression and drank rather a lot of Vodka until the point of passing out most nights. He was a lovely person, had a lot happen in his later years which was ongoing. I cared very much for him and loved our chats on MSN, it was heading towards us meeting up although we lived about a 2 hour drive away from each other. I started to open up to him which I don't find easy. I even question myself about scaring him off but I know that is not true. He then started to dissapear for days on end and I was so worried that he had OD because of how bad his depression was or because of his self harming. I tried to find out all that I could about this resulting in being there for him when he needed someone was the best thing I could do.
In the end he disappeared for a week, I found out that the self harming had gotten way out of control, he even carved his name on himself, his drinking was out of control, I felt he had reached breaking point. To cut a long story short I sent him an email saying that I could no longer deal with the pain that I was feeling. I felt so F@@@ing useless, it was hard seeing his pain and not being able to reach out to help him. I wasn't bitter, far from it. I will be there for anyone, always said no matter what and now I feel so bad because of what I have done.
I feel such a terrible person for what I did, I'm crying as I type this because I feel so down at the moment. I am not a bad person please don't think that I am, I am such a caring person in life.
Would you have done the same thing? How would you of dealt with this?
I have his mobile and home number and want to ring but god knows what will happened it I am told where to go. I just need to get this off my chest.