jimmystanley said:
this is my most major problem. i get extreemley conscious of looking at people while i talk to them. Then i do it, and i get so aware of it, and i notice that the other person notices it and they feel just as awkward. i make people stutter and swallow and usually look away. that makes me feel terrible! i sometimes forget about it, and things are fine. i got out a lot, i have a girlfriend and a few good friends. but i can't shake this. i want to so badly be able to just have a regular conversation without thinking about the looking. anyone else have this problem???
Wouldn't it be so great if in our culture you didn't have to look people in the eyes?
I heard that in many other cultures like Korean culture for example, it's actually considered rude to look people in the eyes.
One other thing I'm afraid of is that I have NO idea what kind of facial expressions I'm making or what kind of bodylanguage I have when "I'm trying to fake being NORMAL" and look people in the eyes.
I think I do sometimes pull off being normal for maybe 10 or 15 seconds, but that's it.
One other thing I'm always worried about is if the awkwardness I have looking people in the eyes and(probably my unusual facial expressions and body language because of social phobia) may be confused for "sexual harrassment" or something like that.
I forced myself to go do the grocery today and luckily I did find a checkout line being worked by a middle aged heavier woman and an elderly gentleman doing the bagging.
Even then the social phobia was major.
The last time I went grocery shopping bymyself was several months ago and ALL the checkout lines were being worked by good looking teenaged girls and girls in their early 20s and I no choice but to use the checkout line being worked by a really goodlooking girl in her early 20s and I was sweating like it was 120 degrees and my heart was beating like I was running a 100m dash.