Letting your 'disorder' be you...

[RedRibbons]

I used to do tests, and classify my problems by disorder type, but I find/found that it confines me.. And made me believe that I was these things.

I admit, when people ask me about my 'problems' I will say that I have pure-obsessional ocd, mild (social) anxiety, and mild depression... But in the end.. I know that these things ARE NOT WHO I AM. They may be a part of me, but they are not me as a whole!

We are all unique individuals. And just because NIMH decides that some of our traits are representative of Social Anxiety, OCD, Avoidant Personality Disorder.. Or WHATEVER.. Doesn't make it you.

I feel that.. When we let these things be us.. We get lost in it.. And forget that we're actually 'normal' people. And that makes it a lot worse than it actually is. So we think a bit too much, we're afraid of being judged, we get sweaty palms.. meh! We're only human.

I know this is kinda random. I'm just trying to say.. Don't let your 'disorder' be all that you are. It's okay to be anxious, shy, fearful, or count something one too many times! To know that your 'disorder' is not the whole of you.. Will do a lot of good.

p.s. if you are grumpy after reading this because.. "You already know" don't bother replying, if you have nothing good to add.

 

[gobbledegook]

I know this is kinda random. I'm just trying to say.. Don't let your 'disorder' be all that you are. It's okay to be anxious, shy, fearful, or count something one too many times! To know that your 'disorder' is not the whole of you..

Well said!

Once one of my friends told me that if I wasn't shy then I wouldn't be Kate. That made me realise that shyness is just another part of my personality and that I should learn to love it Like you said we are all unique and have many parts that make up who we are!

 

[coriander1992]

You're totally right!

I think there's a danger of using your disorders as an excuse for everything aswell. Just blaming it all on your disorders when you aren't even actively doing anything to overcome them.

 

[chris420]

Yes, I have been guilty of this in the past and it is really short-sighted. I wish more people here could see the full potential of themselves

Actually if you could somehow divorce SA from depression, SPW would work much better as a support group IMO. There's too many people wasting their time on here.

 

[Danfalc]

Yeah agree... its funny after finding out the name for my issues i actualy think it made me worse.. at first it was a release cos i though woot im not just loosing the plot.But now i spend too much time on web sites like this and my problems have got 10 times worse because i pigeon whole myself.

Anyway good post.