J
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Does anyone have any good thoughts/ideas/CBT tricks for letting go of past events and actions?
I'm forever mentally dredging up things that happened to me in the past (even things from 10 to 15 years ago!) and getting annoyed and depressed over them. Like today.
I used to work for a small newspaper that really believed in my writing skills. They wanted me to become one of their regular reporters--a great entry-level opportunity. Of course, that requires a lot of people work, and my SA totally ruined it on me (being unable to go to meetings I was supposed to cover, meeting big politicians like the mayor and not being able to open my mouth...) and I was demoted and nearly fired (great 1st-job-out-of-college experience; it's set the tone for my whole 'career').
Today, when I read an article that mentioned that mayor, a now-famous politician in Congress, I was reminded of how I was simply unable to act like a remotely normal person in the position that I had, and it made me think of the career I could have had instead of this dead-end desk job that's too far away and pays too little to alleviate my massive debts from having been laid off 2.5 years ago. Which in turn leads me to think of all the other squandered opportunities and stupid actions and embarassing situations, SA-related or not. And especially how, despite everything that I HAVE managed to do and accomplish since then, I'm really just as much of a dysfunctional, weak loser as I was back then (only now without any hope of seeing any success or 'going anywhere' in life... great to be a washed-up never-even-was-never-mind-has-been at 32...), now with fewer friends, even more distant from my family, etc.
Of course I *know* that dwelling on the past is useless once you've learned the lessons from it, and I should just "let it go" and "move on". My question is, does anyone have any ideas on how to actually do that? What do you guys do?
I'm forever mentally dredging up things that happened to me in the past (even things from 10 to 15 years ago!) and getting annoyed and depressed over them. Like today.
I used to work for a small newspaper that really believed in my writing skills. They wanted me to become one of their regular reporters--a great entry-level opportunity. Of course, that requires a lot of people work, and my SA totally ruined it on me (being unable to go to meetings I was supposed to cover, meeting big politicians like the mayor and not being able to open my mouth...) and I was demoted and nearly fired (great 1st-job-out-of-college experience; it's set the tone for my whole 'career').
Today, when I read an article that mentioned that mayor, a now-famous politician in Congress, I was reminded of how I was simply unable to act like a remotely normal person in the position that I had, and it made me think of the career I could have had instead of this dead-end desk job that's too far away and pays too little to alleviate my massive debts from having been laid off 2.5 years ago. Which in turn leads me to think of all the other squandered opportunities and stupid actions and embarassing situations, SA-related or not. And especially how, despite everything that I HAVE managed to do and accomplish since then, I'm really just as much of a dysfunctional, weak loser as I was back then (only now without any hope of seeing any success or 'going anywhere' in life... great to be a washed-up never-even-was-never-mind-has-been at 32...), now with fewer friends, even more distant from my family, etc.
Of course I *know* that dwelling on the past is useless once you've learned the lessons from it, and I should just "let it go" and "move on". My question is, does anyone have any ideas on how to actually do that? What do you guys do?